dmccarty
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I continue to appreciate all the good thoughts. It's been a week since my wife died and I'm still in a fog but each day is better. This is not something that is easy to write about on a public forum, but you know, all of us have to go through this, well most of us, and I'm hoping some good will come of it.
After seven years, a dozen operations, three radiations, five chemo treatments, thirty hospital stays, most a week or more, I am just plain exhausted. And we all know that good decisions usually don't come when we are tired...so I'm not trying to rush things. It's my wife's sister who is still in town from the funeral who seems to think it's perfectly ok for her to go through every drawer in our house looking for mementos of her sister. She has no idea how invasive that feels. If I find something family oriented, it will go back to family. I guess she is just grasping for some continued connection, and I feel for her. I sure know what that's like.
so I'm going faster than I want, but this too will pass. Yesterday the sister and SIL packed clothes for three hours, and then I let them have their pick of handbags and costume jewelry. But when they started to discuss who should get the Coach handbag, and almost began arguing, I lost it and barked at the sister that I was not going to listen to them argue over my wife's stuff. Maybe this is just normal and I'm not used to this. My wife's new sewing machine is going to one lady and her serger to the other. Luckily the SIL is an accomplished seamstress who can really use the machinery. So I feel good about that.
Varmint, nice story about your friend, thanks.
What Varmint's wife did was excellent.
Unfortunately, fighting over the treasure of those who have died seems to be common.
I have seen some heated conversations about items that have meaning and I understand those discussions. I have an aunt who maybe has forgiven me for getting my granny's rocking chair. :laughing::laughing::laughing: That chair meant, and means, a lot to me, since my grandmother owned it for years and I would sit in the chair for hours when I visited her. I am pretty sure she bought the chair at Sears close to a century ago and that chair is all original. Even the paint. The fabric appears to be silk, which is barely worn and the colors are still good. The chair folds up too and it still works. They truly do not make chairs like this anymore. I have always told my grandmother, even as a kid, I wanted that chair one day and on one of my lasts visits to her, out of the blue, she told me to take the chair so I did. My aunt was ticked but she got other mementos.
That chair is in my bedroom and I will sit in it from time to time to remember my granny. :thumbsup: I REALLY miss her too. Granny never had much and raised four kids on a teachers pay when teachers really were paid squat. She did not have time or money to fix fancy meals but she made some food that was simply awesome. One of those dishes was Chicken and Dumplings. Not fat, doughy yankee dumplings but flat dumplings. Not Chicken and Pastry that they make here in NC either. The "pastry" here are really noodles and I don't want Chicken and Noodles soup! :laughing::laughing::laughing: When I was in my late teens, my parents were out of town on the weekend. My granny called me up to see how I was doing and I was in the kitchen trying to make Chicken and Dumplings! :laughing::laughing::laughing: She was surprised that I was trying to cook Chicken and Dumplings and she laughed and laughed and laughed. Lordy, I can still hear her laughing. She told that story about me making C&Ds for the rest of her life. My dad and I were talking about that story this weekend and of course I told it to my kids for the upteenth time! :laughing::laughing::laughing: At least they did not give me the "Yeah, dad we have heard this story before." look or speech.
This weekend I saw that chicken thighs were on sale for 99 cents a pound and I made C&Ds for the first time in at least a decade. They were pretty danged good! Not as good as granny's of course but danged close! :licking::thumbsup: I still have one more serving of C&Ds I will eat tonight and I froze half of the chicken I bought. The next batch is going to be really good. Maybe 99% as good as granny's! :laughing::laughing::laughing:
I listen to a syndicated morning radio show that has a man and a woman as the two hosts. I think he is in his late 50's maybe 60's and she is in her 40s. Both have been married three times. They both got married young and she says she knew when she was getting married that it was a mistake but she did it anyway. The first marriages ended in divorce and they remarried. What is odd, is that it seems like they both married spouses with similar personalities and the character issues ended the second marriage for both. The two hosts have long joked how they thought three marriages sounded about right. :laughing::laughing::laughing: The man eventually married for a third time and it seems like the third time was a charm. The woman host said she would NEVER remarry but lo and behold this summer, out of the blue, she and her long time boyfriend got married.
Getting married three times does seem like a bit much, but now a days with people living so long, maybe three is not so much. Especially if one marries young and hits a few major bumps in the road of life.
Later,
Dan