I switched the 'electrical windings' (the blue 'boxes' in the picture of the solenoid) - no change.
As for the QD, their is only one set (that is in line with the solenoid) and I was able to get fluid to pump through both of them - and by the way, I got a nice hydraulic bath with one of them!
At this point I think it is either the QD that connects the 'close' function or it's a bad cylinder. The thing I can't tell about the QD is that it pumps (a lot) of fluid when I pushed the 'pin' in (while my wife press the joystick button) but compared to what? Is it the right amount, 1/3 what it should be - I have no way of knowing nor do I have the equipment to "measure" it.
I'm starting to reach the "time is money" phase here - with a slight twist - I'm spending all my free time saving money. I've got limbs down everywhere from the storm, I've got about 10 acres (including trails) to mow, still have about 30 bushes that need trimmed, i.e. I don't have much more time to mess with this.
I'm going to call my local Kubota dealer tomorrow and ask him if he'll let me take the grapple there and hook it up to a tractor on their lot - I'll at least eliminate one variable or maybe find the answer.