Saltman:
Whomever you choose for a builder, it is very important that you or your wife are there as much as possible, otherwise it becomes the contractors house and not yours. When we built, I was onsite 90% of the time. I helped with moving lumber, tieing steel for the footings, framing, etc. I reframed a wall in the dining room which was originally going to be a french door but we decided later to make into a window with sidelights. We had one window moved 18 inches in one wall because we realized after it was framed that the bed would be half under the window and half not and would look odd.
We had an EXCELLENT, RELIABLE AND THOROUGHLY HONEST BUILDER with whom we had zero problems.
Some inexpensive things we did was to have the studs behid the refrigerator turned 90 degrees so the standard refrigerator lined up more with standard cabinet depths. We used several pocket doors and used 2 X 6 studs in those walls so the framing on each side of the door was 2X material and not one by's adding rigidity to those walls. In our master bath, we had a "medicine cabinet" framed into an otherwise unused wall and it ended up around 32" wide and 48" high and 3 1/2" deep with double door access to store extra things like deodorant, soap, shaving cream, etc. Stuff you would otherwise lose under the sink. We also had bathroom sinks at kitchen sink height for less bending over. We had framed into the pantry wall that we could also otherwise not use a space 14 1/2" wide by about 42" high. I built a spice rack that would fit into that space so that we could store 40 or so bottles of spices completely accessable and completely out of the way.
When we had the tub installed, I had them drill another hole in the tub and connect a telephone shower head of a flexible hose to be able to wash kids, etc more easily. We also had them install an access panel to reach the jacuzzi pump so we don't have to cut access later.
This stuff is all cheap when building and makes for convenience later on.
I also had installed a recirculating system for hot water which constantly circulates hot water to each kitchen, bath and shower outlet so that when turning the hot water tap on you only have to wait for the hot water to travel a few feet. The miliamp pump uses little electricity and saves us wasting water while it travel some 75' to a faucet.
I also installed a telephone outlet in the master commode area for convenience. Also, we found Bemis brand toilet seats for about $10.00 more than standard seats that do not slam when dropped. They close silently and slowly so no slamming by me or the kids.
Since you're not buying into a tract, you can modify your house plans and house before and as you go. I think it's easier to do this than remodel. I would recommend you go to as many new tracts, particularly at the high end for neat ideas to incorporate in your house. We must have visited well over 100 model homes on both coasts. Also, show the plans to some friends that are into house designs, etc. We did that and one friend pointed out the fact that the Master bedroom seemed small. We made it about 18" longer and it made a big difference.
As I said in the previous posting, I would be happy to take a private E-mail if you want to discuss how our building went and why it went the way it did and discuss options. I'll be back in California on 1/4/07.
Good luck