One of the Hospice nurses my daughter talked to, one not involved in her FIL's care, said that sometimes people are waiting for something or someone before they die. My daughter made the video of the grandkids playing and laughing and saying, "I love you Papaw". She played it for him once and he took a big breath and within minutes had passed. His wife believes he was waiting to hear them one last time. They couldn't bring the kids in to see him. The shape he was in was simply too horrible.
RSKY
I think that is true. The family member who took a week to die was moved from intensive care to a regular room where he was to die. He was moaning so loud we had to turn up the TV to the highest setting to TRY not to disturb other patients.
He was heavily sedated so I don't think he was in pain but was trying to talk...
The last time I saw him alive, I whispered in his ear that it was time for him to let go. Not sure I made a difference, and I think other family members said the same thing, but he died the next day.
Long story short, 14 hours after he was supposed to have died, I was staying over night with the sick family member. At 2-3am, he started talking. We were one of the last people to whom he talked to before he went unconcious 26 hours before so when he started talking it was a big surprise. The doctor said when his blood pressure got in the 50's he would die. All night I had watched his pressure drop and figured at his current pressure drop, he would be in the 50's between 2-3 at which point he would die.
Between 2-3 am, with his blood pressure in the 50s, he started talking.... Not to me but to his long dead mother. :shocked: The hair went up on the back of my neck. HE WAS talking to his mother. He would say something. Pause. Wait of an answer I could not hear. This lasted 30-60 seconds and he was as clear as a bell. Then he stopped talking and his blood pressure started to increase and got out of the 50s. :confused3:
His wife demanded that a family member be with him 24 hours a day so I pulled the night shift. The next night I was staying with him and the same thing happened except his words were not clear. It was just mumbling.
I was the last family member to hear him talk. He was apologizing for something he had done, which had badly disappointed his mother, and changed the family's life forever. He was crying when he was talking. Was he talking to his mother or was it a memory?
The reader can decide. :laughing::laughing::laughing:
Later,
Dan
