I have had enough!!!

[bigshovel]

I sit here at my desk at my office at 11:00p.m on a night before a national holliday at my wits end. A brief look into my world for all of you and more so a rant for me. I have started 3 company's and sold 2 before the age of 35 currently have one now with a branch in VA. I avoided marriage up until a year ago because I knew how I operate, I don't have time for me let alone anyone else. I lost a large construction project public bid today to an idiot that bid 1.5 million below my cost, 31 million dollar project. I paid for my younger brothers education and hired him upon graduation, he quit a year later, no hard feelings for either party. He went to work for a competitor 2 states away, didn't bother me. He soon realized that grass wasn't as green as he hoped. So I decided to open a location in VA for him to run. 9 months later, today as a matter of fact I recieve a phone call from him and he announces he's seeking greener pastures again.His actions bother me this time and I really need to keep thing civil for family's sake but it's going to be tough. So now I need to figure out whether to replace him or close up shop and cut my losses. If I choose to make a go of it my next step will be divorce court which I'm not fond of that picture at all. I don't have other employees at that location that I trust to look out for my best interests, yet. I needed to vent, sorry. Anyone out there interested in being a project manager .

Brad

 

[RollingsFarms]

I sit here at my desk at my office at 11:00p.m on a night before a national holliday at my wits end. A brief look into my world for all of you and more so a rant for me. I have started 3 company's and sold 2 before the age of 35 currently have one now with a branch in VA. I avoided marriage up until a year ago because I knew how I operate, I don't have time for me let alone anyone else. I lost a large construction project public bid today to an idiot that bid 1.5 million below my cost, 31 million dollar project. I paid for my younger brothers education and hired him upon graduation, he quit a year later, no hard feelings for either party. He went to work for a competitor 2 states away, didn't bother me. He soon realized that grass wasn't as green as he hoped. So I decided to open a location in VA for him to run. 9 months later, today as a matter of fact I recieve a phone call from him and he announces he's seeking greener pastures again.His actions bother me this time and I really need to keep thing civil for family's sake but it's going to be tough. So now I need to figure out whether to replace him or close up shop and cut my losses. If I choose to make a go of it my next step will be divorce court which I'm not fond of that picture at all. I don't have other employees at that location that I trust to look out for my best interests, yet. I needed to vent, sorry. Anyone out there interested in being a project manager .

Brad

to be honest it sounds like to me your brother is/has been using you as a crutch. he works for you for awhile, then wants to find that same money with probably less work, and when it doesn't workout that way he knows that you will bail him out. then after he works for you some more, he does the same thing. i say bring in an outside source to be your next project manager, someone with experience(5 years min.). let your brother know that you love him, but you have a business to run and you need people you can DEPEND on. you arent looking for someone who's going to bail on you every couple of years. you need consistency in your business and everytime your brother leaves for greener pastures as you say, you must start over. you can't do that on a consisten basis and expect to stay in business long. so if i was you, i'd be getting the word out to hire a new project manager. you might want to start with an employee firm, even though they cost, you will at least have plenty of qualified cantidates to interview. again, this being a new location and a new business, you need experience more then anything. you don't need someone who's "green", not that they wouldn't do the job, but let's face it, experience is invaluable.

p.s. i have my bachelor's in business management, but i wouldn't move to PA. sounds like a great job to have though!

 

[randy41]

where in VA?
everyone's point of view is different but to me my marriage would be the top priority.

 

[deereguy]

Why is your marriage in jeopardy if you close down your satellite office? Or is there something I am missing?

 

[Ductape]

I'll offer my advice. In my late 20s i started my own business...... a business that had to offer 24 hr service. I loved my business and working didn't really feel like work. All too often i ended up working seven days a week. It was ok though, because i felt i made decent money. For 12 years all i did was work. Relationships came and went. Christmas, birthdays, family events.... all came and went while i was working. Then i met my wife. She convinced me to slow down and smell the roses. I came to realize my business was a ball and chain around my ankle...... so i got rid of it. Its just not whats important in life. Now, at 42 i'm hoping its nt too late for me to make a baby or two!

Let your brother go. Don't ever hire him again. Forgive him, he's only trying to do whats best for himself (even if he's wrong). Close the other branch of your business........ save your marriage. Spend a little more time at home. Live life a little more. So you'll make a little less, and maybe feel like you've failed in some way...... so what??!! Life is so much better when you slow down. That branch of your business isn't whats important in your life, your marriage IS.

Sure, i now make a fraction of what i used to..... but now my life is successful. I hope i'm lucky enough to have the ultimate success.... children.

My opinion : Do the right thing. Let your brother go. Don't hold it against him. Close that portion of your business. Spend a little more time at home. Make your wife happy.

 

[Farmwithjunk]

Save your marriage. You'll come to realize in due time that's the most important thing you can have in life. Cut losses. Let brother sink or swim...without subsidizing his "swimming lessons". Streamline your operation to where it's not a giant burden. Life's too short to be unhappy most of the time.

 

[kenmac]

Been there ,done that with younger brother. Haden't spoken in 3 yrs because of it.Never, never, never did I say never do business with kin. Sorry to hear your in that situation

 

[Tig]

Save the marriage. Your wife will love you forever, your business will love you never.

 

[MossRoad]

Sorry for your pain. Close the operation, spend time with your spouse. Tell your brother you love him and move on. You sound successful enough.

 

[js5020]

As a former workaholic, I concur with everyone else. There is nothing more important than your family. When you get old, none of your projects will be there to sit on the porch with you.