C'mon...it isn't all like that. Towing a trailer of any weight or sort is dangerous business.
I'd put my Kubota BX on the back of my 3,500# capacity trailer and I'd have a hard time slowing it down. I now put the same tractor on my relatively huge 20' dovetail with a combined weight of closer to 4,500# and I can barely tell it's back there when accelerating or braking.
I am around lots and lots of folks with trailers when I'm camping with my travel trailer...30 nights a year on average. If I took a poll of how many folks think their tow vehicle is perfect, could be bigger, or is a real limitation, it would break down like this:
2 out of 5 would say their tow vehicle is a limitation
1 out of 5 would say their tow vehicle could be bigger but it is OK
2 out of 5 would say that their tow vehicle is perfect.
The 2 that say their vehicle is perfect are invariably driving a 1 ton diesel, either SRW or DRW. They've already "figured it out".
The 1 that says their truck is OK but could use more _________ (fill in the blank) is invariably driving a 1/2 ton SUV or PU. I fall into that category. I need a little more engine and a little more wheelbase.
The 2 that say their tow vehicle is a limitation are always driving Durangos, Jeeps, Terrains, Envoys, Ridgelines, or whatever uni-body trucklet you could name.
Buying a truck is no small deal...very expensive. You only want to do it once and you want to cover as many bases as you can with your purchase. If you're buying a daily driver, that's great. Even better if it can tow something.
I don't care what the ratings say...if you're buying a truck to
TOW with, a Jeep store just isn't the first place one visits. I pull a 7,000# 29' travel trailer every other weekend with my wife and kids in the car and I can tell you
there is absolutely no way on the planet earth I would EVER consider towing that same trailer with a Jeep...Commander, Cherokee, new, old, or otherwise.
You said in your original post that you like smaller vehicles but they don't have the tow ratings...there's a reason for that. Don't beat us up because we point out the simple fact that towing 7,000# with a Jeep is a VASTLY different conversation than towing 7,000# with a 1/2 ton or 3/4 ton truck.
That said, I really hope you enjoy your truck. I'm quite certain you'll enjoy it more around town considerably more than I do my Expedition.