Solved! Backhoe is mounted on the tractor and tucked away in the barn. What a relief!
I did two things.
1. Taking care to be safe, I was able to release pressure from the male backhoe hose. Yes, there was some pressure there.
2. I lifted the front of the hoe with the tractor bucket and placed wooden blocks under the base of the boom and under the frame near the front. By fiddling with those blocks I was able to change the center of gravity such that I could operate the boom cylinder a bit in both directions without hooking up the hydraulics. As the cylinder moved, the front of the hoe would tilt back and forth.
I do not have an exact sequence of steps to describe since I went through several sequences of fiddling with the blocks, releasing any pressure, moving the boom cylinder, hooking the hydraulics to the tractor and seeing if it worked.
One time with the hydraulics hooked up the boom very slowly closed, but nothing else worked.
More fiddling and then one last test before giving up for the day. This time instead of trying to raise the stabilizers I reached for the control that emptied the bucket AND IT WORKED.
I then completed the process of hooking up the backhoe and life is good.
Thanks to everyone that took the time to comment.