I had been looking at property for the past couple of months and found a nice 8 acre lot. It was basically a 5 lot, small sub-division. I talked with the realtor and got permission to go to the property and check it out. I took my wife, mother and children with me. We walked the property and really liked it. When we got back to the truck I saw the homeowner that lived next door. I told the wife I am going over there and introduce myself. She was like "you love talking to everybody". I walked over and introduced myself and said I was interested in the property next to him for sale. He immediately said "do you have permission from the realtor to be here?". I politely replied that the realtor and owners gave me permission. First not good sign. He then went on about all the cameras and video he has put around his place. Second not good sign. Then my Mom came over and he just kept talking away about how the property we were looking at sucked and was using some not so nice language in front of my Mom. Third not good sign. He finally apologized about that. Then he said he and his friends like to raise a little **** on the weekends but never bothered anyone. Fourth bad sign. He was just a very arrogant unhappy man. We thanked him for talking with us and left. I told my wife, now you know why I like talking to people. Had I not talked with him we very well could have bought that property and would have had to deal with him on a regular basis. He did accomplish his goal. We did not buy and I feel sorry for anyone who does buy that place. When I was growing up I was always taught to respect the neighbors and treat people with respect. It is sad to say that in this day and time we live in, that the feeling of community and helping your neighbor is steadily disappearing.
The good side is we found a 16 acre lot on a dead-end "ccc" road that sits next to a small country church. It is surrounded by big tracts of land with a huge swamp in the very back. When I was down there getting the perk test done I met the Deacon of that church. What a nice fellow. He told me I could park my trailer and tractor at the church anytime I wanted and welcomed me to the neighborhood. I am so glad I like talking with people. It worked out well for my situation.
I really hope you can work out your situation with that neighbor. All you can do is be nice and respectful, regardless of the way he acts. I try and make an effort and not to sink to their level, but I sure do love Dftodd's response.
