Lonely

[gsganzer]

Farmgeek,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please keep posting photo's. It reminds us all that we share a common bond. The love of our tractors, our families and our way of life. God bless you. You're in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[AlanB]

My deepest sympathies.
I cannot imagine what it would be like, but you know in your heart what a special lady you had, and how she thought of others the entire way through.

Her spirit lives on in your thoughts and memories and she gave the gift of life to many others who will be forever thankfull.

 

[Birdhunter1]

Now go hug your spouse.

Jeff, sorry for your loss.

Granted I've only been married not quite 7 months but I hug my wife every morning and every night for the simple reason you never know when it will be your last hug.

She gets tired of it sometimes!

 

[vmarc]

So sorry Jeff.

 

[Farmwithjunk]

They say everything has a reason. Sometimes it's hard to understand what that is. I sure can't think of a good one for what happened with your wife.

I normally read just about every new post on TBN as it comes up. For some odd reason, I passed by this one until this morning.

Today my wife and I have been married 35 years. I've treasured every minute of our time together. Your post just made me appreciate her even more. You never know when our time on earth will end.

I'm truely sorry for your loss. My father told me something just hours before he passed away. "Be thankful you had someone in your life that you'll miss so much. Not everyone has that luxury". Those words make me smile every time I think of them (or my dad) I'm sure the pain seems almost unbearable at this point. Maybe it will ease in time.

And I'll give my wife an extra hug and kiss this afternoon because of what I just read.

Bill

 

[JDGREEN4ME]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Take Care!
Bill Jones

 

[Hootie]

Thanks for sharing with us here. Our prayers and thoughts are certainly with you. The obvious love you had for one another is still blessing others as they read and view your posts. I know I will give my bride of 30 years an extra big 'ol hug today because of you two. We are with you, keep the faith.

 

[Bird]

If you haven’t done this before go do it now!! Talk to your spouse about what your final wishes are. Have a will made. Draft a Living Will if appropriate and consider Powers of Attorney for the both of you.

Amen, we've done that ourselves.

Most of my friends don’t know what to say so they keep quiet and stay away unless I call them first.

I'll bet most of us have been guilty of that. It really can be hard to know what to say since nothing we say can bring your loved one back.

Even after 41 years of marriage, I can only imagine what life would be like without her; a terrible thought. So sorry you have to live it instead of imagining it.

 

[frank_f15]

Jeff, my wife and I add our sympathy for the loss of your dear wife.

GOD BLESS
FRANK & ROSE

 

[AndyMA]

Jeff

So sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hopefully your friends here on the net can help a little with your loneliness.

Andy

 

[higgy]

go to the place that she liked the best on the property and put a bench there. Go sit and talk with her when you need to. You will feel better who actualy knows, maybe she will be listening.

I do this, it helps when times get tough.

Dane

 

[MrJimi]

go to the place that she liked the best on the property and put a bench there. Go sit and talk with her when you need to. You will feel better who actualy knows, maybe she will be listening.

I do this, it helps when times get tough.

Dane

I will agree with Dane, that sounds like an idea that she would like very much, you can share your feelings with her and only her.
If you were closer, I would love to help you build this special spot for both of you
Jim

 

[MikeB44]

Jeff,

So sorry to hear about your loss. Our prayers are with you and your wife.

After reading your post this morning, I took off early from work and brought home roses for my wife, kids, mom, & sister.

God Bless.

 

[FarmGeek]

Dane,

That's a GREAT idea! I've got just the place too. There were two favorite spots on the farm she liked to hang out. Maybe I will do both. Images are attached of each.

Thanks again guys, your words have been a great comfort to me these past few days. At times, I didn't think I would make it but reading these messages gave me the strength to go on.

Now I'm off to her Celebration of Life party - she didn't like funerals much. So its Buffalo Wings and Beer. Everyone is welcome to attend.

Jeff

 

[Kyle_in_Tex]

So sorry for the loss of your beloved wife, friend, helper and I'm sure the list could go on and on.

The loss of a loved one is about the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. The grief is terrible. Grief is a tough, difficult emotion to deal with. I figured out that the amount of grief is equal to the love.

Grasp on to your religion. Keep yourself involved with friends and loved ones. It is tough for friends who commonly are at a loss for words. Join an organization that involves people who share your interests. Stay busy, she would have wanted you to be happy. Cherish her love and zest for life. Think and remember of her those good times you had together.

It is a good thing that you are open enough about your loss to share it with us. Although we are mostly strangers, we do have many common interests and themes.

Again, So sorry for your loss,
Kyle

 

[higgy]

Jeff,

I think that either or both of those loactions would be great. I hope it helps you.

I wish you the best.

I like the celibration of life idea, my familey has the same thoughts as you on this.

Dane

 

[ronjhall]

Now I'm off to her Celebration of Life party - she didn't like funerals much. So its Buffalo Wings and Beer. Everyone is welcome to attend.
Jeff

My wife and I would like to add our sympathy.
Enjoy the Celebration.

 

[Travis_R]

I haven't got a wife yet. Heck, I can't even find anyone to date. I'm 22, still single and am SO tired of it. The older I get, the harder it is getting for me to find a companion.

You and your wife will be in my prayers. ALWAYS remember the good times and never let em' go.

Travis R

 

[FarmGeek]

Hang in there Travis,

I wasn't searching for anyone when I found "Her". She came into my life when I was divorced and angry at women in general. Her compassion turned me around and saved me from a life of solitaire and TV dinners.

It seems that the harder you look for something the harder it is to find. Try different circles of people, a new venue. Be sincere and most importantly, be yourself. There is somebody for everybody and we don't always know when we'll meet. I was married for twenty years the first time but didn't find my true "mate' until after I was forty. Give it some more time and you will find the right one. You'll know when she comes around. When you think her life is worth more that yours is a pretty good indicator. Be brave. If you find someone you are interested in, walk right up and introduce yourself.

You publicly demonstrated your compassion and empathy. I think you’re a super guy and some day soon a very nice gal will think the same.

Jeff

 

[Farmwithjunk]

Hang in there Travis,

I wasn't searching for anyone when I found "Her". She came into my life when I was divorced and angry at women in general. Her compassion turned me around and saved me from a life of solitaire and TV dinners.

It seems that the harder you look for something the harder it is to find. Try different circles of people, a new venue. Be sincere and most importantly, be yourself. There is somebody for everybody and we don't always know when we'll meet. I was married for twenty years the first time but didn't find my true "mate' until after I was forty. Give it some more time and you will find the right one. You'll know when she comes around. When you think her life is worth more that yours is a pretty good indicator. Be brave. If you find someone you are interested in, walk right up and introduce yourself.

You publicly demonstrated your compassion and empathy. I think you’re a super guy and some day soon a very nice gal will think the same.

Jeff

Jeff, I'm very impressed by your approach to life, your attitude, and the stregnth you're showing through an incredably tough time. It's terrible what your wife had to endure. She was lucky to have someone like you standing along side of her in those times. You have a far better understanding of life and all that goes along with it than most folks.