My son died 19 yrs. ago

[riptides]

I speak to dead realtives all the time.... I've never gotten a sign but it makes me feel better anyway.

Interesting, how do you know you have never gotten a sign?

It is a matter of interpretation, no? I think some of our ancestors in times of past were more in tune with our heavens and earth's ways. Some people today still have these insights. Some cultures too.

-Mike Z.

 

[curly]

Talk to God about your son, no one knows better than God what it's like to lose a Son.

 

[Farmwithjunk]

Talk to God about your son, no one knows better than God what it's like to lose a Son.

Not much anyone can add to that

 

[gsganzer]

.... I've never gotten a sign but it makes me feel better anyway.

I have an interesting story.

My brother passed from cancer a few years ago. When I left his bedside and returned to be with my expectant wife in Texas, he was in hospice and in his final days.

Once I got home, my heart was heavy thinking of my brother in his final days. Things were hectic at home and I managed to say little prayers for him throughout the day, but I felt like I really needed to kneel down and have a good prayer with God (something I really don't do). Finally, one evening I was walking back to the house after feeding the animals and I just stopped and looked up at the most beautiful clear sky with the stars ablaze. I dropped to my knee's and had my prayer, asking that God take care of my brother. I finally felt at peace that he would be leaving us and knew he would be free of his suffering and in a better place. Ten minutes after walking into the house, I got the phone call. My sister-in-law was at his bedside still holding his hand and he had just passed.

 

[Podunkadunk]

I too am sorry for your loss. Children should bury their parents, not the other way around

I lost my Grandfather Nov. 3rd, 2002. I can honestly say that not one day has passed since then that I don't think of him. Since I was raised by my grandparents, he was the closest thing I ever had to a father. The "hole" you mentioned is familiar. I too have a void that can't be filled. I'm hoping that the birth of my first child (Jan. '08) will fill that void, or at least make is smaller.

He always wanted me to have a grandchild while he was alive, I regret that never happened. I was in the Military at the time and was deployed a lot...I didn't want a young child to be without a father like I was at that age. Thus, it never happened.

I have never received a "sign" from him so to speak, but 2 weeks prior to him passing away, I was taking a nap and had one of the most vivid dreams I had ever had. My great uncle (Grandfather's brother) who had been dead for 7 years came to me in my dream and told me to go see my Grandfather. I woke up and had been crying in my sleep. I told my better half about the dream and that we needed to make the trip to see him. Little did I know that it would be the last time I saw him alive.

During that visit, we went fishing. He sure did love to fish. I'll never forget him.

Podunk

 

[wjoerob]

Thanks to all for your replies. It's good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way about losing a loved one. There's something special in a man's heart about his firstborn -- not that I don't love my other kids with all my heart. But it's that one that starts us thinking about how we fit into this whole big picture.

Somebody tried to tell me when my son died that it was probably merciful on God's part, maybe something terrible would have happened if he'd stayed here. Another friend put it better. He said, "As a Christian Dad, your most important job is making sure your loved ones all get to Heaven. You just had one go ahead earlier." It;s good to look forward to seeing them all there some day. Only through the Lord Jesus Christ.

Also, I know what you mean about not shedding a tear at the funeral, being glad they're out of suffering. That doesn't mean you don't feel anything either. It means you lived through that stretched-out grief with them.

 

[hillslider]

On June 2nd 1990 my mom passed away very sudden. I was 18 at the time. Very hard and to this day is still very hard. One week after I graduated from high school...I never imagined her not being around.

Jump ahead to about 2004. My little daughter about 3 years old was playing in the corner with all of her toys. I asked her "whatcha doing?" she said she was playing with her friend. A couple of weeks later I was going through some old pictures and came acrross some of my mom. My little girl came up and sat besides me and pointed at the picture and said "my friend". I about passed out from emotion. So now when my kids are sitting alone and playing I often shed a little tear because I know that their grandma is sitting with them and having a great time.

Just had to share this story with you all.

Rob

 

[Podunkadunk]

On June 2nd 1990 my mom passed away very sudden. I was 18 at the time. Very hard and to this day is still very hard. One week after I graduated from high school...I never imagined her not being around.

Jump ahead to about 2004. My little daughter about 3 years old was playing in the corner with all of her toys. I asked her "whatcha doing?" she said she was playing with her friend. A couple of weeks later I was going through some old pictures and came acrross some of my mom. My little girl came up and sat besides me and pointed at the picture and said "my friend". I about passed out from emotion. So now when my kids are sitting alone and playing I often shed a little tear because I know that their grandma is sitting with them and having a great time.

Just had to share this story with you all.

Rob

GAVE ME GOOSEBUMPS!

 

[Kendall69]

Talk to God about your son, no one knows better than God what it's like to lose a Son.

MAN!, that was a great line. I will have to steal it.

 

[curly]

MAN!, that was a great line. I will have to steal it.

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