New here. Shared driveway issues w/someone who owns a backhoe, bulldozer, excavator

[Larry Caldwell]

I may just get a boulder, though I have no idea where to even get one, and place it on the outer corner of where the property is. I know I own all the way from my house to the grass on that triangle at the Y part of the driveway. I've seen the property line stake before. If he had an easement of 60ft (God forbid!) he would already take huge advantage of it. No question about it.

You buy rocks from rock companies. Any quarry shot results in boulders too big to go through the crusher. Someone could easily roll one out of a dump truck for you, but placing it accurately is another matter. That could require a large backhoe or a cat.

 

[dave1949]

An 8" well casing sunk deep and filled with concrete is a good truck "fence". Without pics this may make no sense, but why not tell the guy to clean out as much of the Y as he needs and that would keep him off your lot. What is the Y doing for anybody?

 

[rambler]

I don't understand the Y part either. Sounds like you should have a straight Tee coming out, with a slight flair - couple feet each way - to allow turning onto the public road.

As well, I don't understand the maintenence deal - you all 3 use the road (I know you said you don't, but it's there for you to use....) so everyone chips in 1/4 and maintain it that way. Not just th epart on your property, but everyone takes care of 1/4 of the whole road. Now I understand you doing it the way you are doing it, and not looking to bill anyone - I get that. But, the whole deal is set up wrong......

I think you got one shot at this, keep it civil but make your statement strongly.

A snow fence and maybe seed some grass next spring - well a truck trailer can drive over that pretty easily, I don't think you are making much of a statement at all.

A boulder or other immovable object is the statement to make, fisrt time, and will be the best chance of making things stick.

Where I live, there are rules how far away from the public road such a thing could be, and there are rules how wide the access road (easement accross your property) has to be. I'd think that would be a 20 foot easement here, if not more, and place the rock where you are allowed to place it. If you put it too close to the public road, etc. then tyou will be forced to move it, and will have lost your statement.

You need to make a calm but very firm statement.

You are also in the middle of a family fued. If he didn't get along with his sis, and you own his sis's land, then he is carrying that grudge against his sis, and how his grandma treated him 0 he is projecting all that dislike onto you. Once you start messing with the road, it'll bring up all his bad feelings about that old situation.

Good luck with all that. I think you are right and correct, but lotta good that does you.

--->Paul

 

[forgeblast]

Some big rocks, and then landscape it nice. You could even go with something like the skyrocket juniper to make a nice ever green screen down the side, plus the deer will not eat it up.

 

[Rock knocker]

Please don't drive on my lawn ever again

 

[Hillman314]

Jeez, pages and hours of contemplating about talking to a lawyer, a judge, a surveyor, the neighbor's parents, the neighbor's sister, the other neighbors, everybody but the contractor! Turning him into the evil "OTHER". This is how wars start. Talk to your neighbor. In a unemotional and unaccusatory matter of fact way, tell him what you are going to do. (Example: "Hey bud, just so you know, I'm going to put a couple of rocks on the edge of the driveway just to keep the edge of the lawn from moving in more. Just to keep everything honest and fair for everyone, I'm getting it surveyed so we know where the exact edge is.") If you present your problem (without being accusatory) and then present a solutuion that seems fair and reasonable, most people will see it as just that; and the presense of boulders that now blocks him on the way home from work one day, perhaps on a bad day when he pissed about 20 other things, doesn't come off as a surprise attack.

 

[Rock knocker]

The OP does seem to have the passive part of passive agressive down pat. And they certainly seem to know how not to get to the point.

 

[yelbike]

Jeez, pages and hours of contemplating about talking to a lawyer, a judge, a surveyor, the neighbor's parents, the neighbor's sister, the other neighbors, everybody but the contractor! Turning him into the evil "OTHER". This is how wars start. Talk to your neighbor. In a unemotional and unaccusatory matter of fact way, tell him what you are going to do. (Example: "Hey bud, just so you know, I'm going to put a couple of rocks on the edge of the driveway just to keep the edge of the lawn from moving in more. Just to keep everything honest and fair for everyone, I'm getting it surveyed so we know where the exact edge is.") If you present your problem (without being accusatory) and then present a solutuion that seems fair and reasonable, most people will see it as just that; and the presense of boulders that now blocks him on the way home from work one day, perhaps on a bad day when he pissed about 20 other things, doesn't come off as a surprise attack.

Your totally correct. We don't have all the details. To the op, don't assume he's a jerk till he proves it. Good luck.

 

[hunterridgefarm]

It is hard to tell without pictures but could you not gravel the middle section of the "Y" thereby creating a larger area that meets the highway? This would allow better access to the highway and the truck and trailer could make a wider turn...? Like I said until we see pictures it is hard to vision.

 

[Orangecrush68]

Update:

It's all done.

I feel I did this in the most responsible, reasonable way possible. I put green metal garden stakes in, starting where my property line ends at the next door neighbors, where my property had not been eroded, and moving back up towards my property, going in a straight line up the driveway... If you are coming from all the other neighbors properties, and driving up the driveway, it looks perfect, like it's supposed to, and I have my corner back on my property instead of a curve going through what was once my side yard. It looks great! It looks so much better.

I ran a line of caution tape along the stakes and attached red reflectors to them which is all temporary...

In the spring I'll put some top soil down and plant grass, and then landscape it. I won't be using a boulder. After thinking about this over the weekend, I thought a boulder may be too bold.

From the driveway's point of view it doesn't look like any part of that lane was lost because it's now straight all the way out to the road, just like 100% of the rest of the driveway, and the other lane going out to the road.

If I had to guess, I think he'll be able to get out fine, but if he wants to, he can just overcompensate now on the other side which is the grassy triangle. lol Neighbor #3 owns that, and I know enough if that happens he will freak! But that is not my problem. To the people who asked, I have no idea why that triangle is there. It serves no purpose. All that sits on it is a huge boulder in the middle and that's it, with 2 12 ft gravel driveway lanes on either side of it. It would be great if neighbor #3 took it out, but I doubt that'll happen.

Anyway, I appreciated all of your advice. Thank you so much!