Good evening, Eddie.
<font color="blue"> like your house. I like it white. I like the style and I like the way it looks. </font> Liar /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
<font color="blue"> If you ever watch a show on HGTV called Curb Apeal, you're familiar with how they change the total look to a home by changing the color, some details and landscaping. For me, it's just amazing what they do with those homes.
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I love that show and fully agree with you. Amazing transformations, often with just little things, here and there.
<font color="blue"> You should have the biggest grin on your face everytime you see it and that grin should remain on your face long after you walk in the front door.
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A good friend taught me a lesson long time ago when my wife and I were looking for a house to buy. Don't get emotionally attached to a house. If you can't get the deal you want - just walk away. Another will come along.
Well, one of our early mistakes was proceeding with the construction without a plan that we were 100% happy with. We did this, not because we had any emotional attachment, but because we had a pressing time issue to get started. We needed to started building in order to get my son enrolled in the new school district. We did not want him changing school in the middle of the year. The other issue was that we were just worn down from the 9 months of design work. So, we accepted a plan that we liked OK and started construction. We became impatient and I believe this was a big mistake on our part. Neither my wife nor I had the warm fuzzies from day one.
Having said that, there is very little that we really "dislike". In fact, I don't know of anything that my wife dislikes. She thinks it will take very little to get the exterior esthetics where she will smile when she drives up. The interior really puts a grin on her face. My biggest disappointments are in the basement and I've beaten that horse to death. I think the interior is beautiful, but one can always find things they would have done differently. I think we started with a compromised plan, but ended up with a very nice (but far from perfect) result. Thanks to input from many folks and skilled craftsman, I think the result far exceeds the quality of the original plans. Still, I don't know that I will ever grin about a house - this or any other.
<font color="blue"> It's not fancy or very big, but when I see it, I get that feeling. I love driving up to it and seeing it for the first time as I pass the trees. I enjoy looking up from what I'm doing and just admiring my home. It gives me a huge amount of pleasure and satisfaction.
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A huge difference, Eddie, is that your home was the product of your imagination, creativity, and hard work. You put alot of yourself into that project and continue to do so. Had I actually built this house, I can guarantee you I would be grinin' like a possum in a garbage can. You are a creator. I am a consumer. Big, big difference in the source or reason for our happiness level as it applies to our homes. And, I don't think there should be a correlation between the dollars spent and the level of happiness, unless it is an inverse relationship. I know for me, the less I pay, the happier I am. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
My expectation is that at some point, when I drive up to the house, I will get a grin as I think of something one of my kids said, or one of their accomplishments, or how lucky I am to have a loving wife. Memories of my family while living in the house will make me smile - not the structure itself. I want my emotions tied to my family and friends, not inanimate objects. You will have the same memories, plus being able to admire the fruit of your labor and creativity.
As an aside, I don't get all giddy with a new car, either. I know folks who will wash a new car everyday, vacuum it 3 time a week, really baby it. Mine are luck to get washed once a year. They don't even get a space in the garage. They are just cars. So, at least I'm consistent. Now, I do get interesting vehicles occassionally. People come up and say, "how do you like your car?" I almost don't know how torespond. "well, it's ok" "hasn't left me stranded on the side of the road" "gets me where I want to go" I don't know. I've never said,"OH, man, I LOVE this thing!!!" Its just not me. I guess its the same with me and houses.