I never tighten them with the nut -- only to take them off.
FWIW, if I ever strip a filter or know it's wrench isn't going to take it off... I just suck it up, drill a hole and use a thick philips through the filter and start turning.
I see folks bickering with trying to get them off, spending upwards of an hour trying to get one off. I look at it, if it don't come off in the first or second try, only way is to punch a hole. I don't have time to be messing around, lol.