Just saying here: I am 100% deaf so maybe that is why both of the kids go thru their mom...who is also 100% deaf. So much easier to talk to your mom online rather than deal with the grump of a stepdad who refuses to say anything online.....does anyone here REALLY understand the situation i am facing with my stepkids?
Just read this entire thread. Only once saw the question raised about why the two aren't thriving/advancing at their current jobs? You said they are "muddling" through life. Kids in tow. Specifically how is a degree going to change that?
Are they succeeding/excelling at their current level position but are blocked from advancement for lack of a degree? Or, is this just a hit and hope that somehow getting any kind of a degree will magically transform their lives?
You say they are hard workers but is that real given the "muddling" comment and that they seem to have not advanced in their current positions?
Do you really have evidence and solid ground to believe that a degree will change their lives? Or, do you just want to 'help' to feel good about helping? Have you seriously considered that 'helping' may just be enabling?
Why does your help HAVE to come in the form of "paying" for college?
Why couldn't it be in the form of child care, etc?
Seems you have a lot of questions you may not really want to answer in this situation.
Have you considered setting up a revocable trust account at your bank where they would get reimbursed based on the grades? If they didn't get the grades the trust could go to their kids for college expenses.
TBS
