TBN'ers We need to be nice!!!!

[Ed of all trades]

This used to be a nice forum and still is to a large extent. Many people are kind, caring, and this is a wide spread family of tractor nuts. Lately it seems that there are grown people acting like school kids. They are rude and insulting. If you can't prove it to me then I don't think you have a problem. In other words people owe them a video and if they don't get it the other person is a fibber. It is a shame, makes me feel bad for the person with the problem and the person who thinks that way. Wonder how many people have not joined, or left TBN because of junk like that? :2cents: Ed

 

[300UGUY]

Seems to go with the political season. I have seen it on other boards. Insults replace intelligence.

 

[dieselcrawler]

Ed: well said.

Regardless of political season, phase of the moon, 'time of the month', or if you just had a bad day, it boils down to the core reason a board like this is so valuable. A place to share experiences, ideas, and common interest. No need to 'prove' anything, just be kind, honest, and respectful. We all have our own ways of doing things, but need to be modest enough to be open to other's ways might work too, maybe even for ourselves. I've learned LOADS here, and other boards, it's no different than kindergarten, be nice, listen to others.

Thanks for a great site!

 

[murphy1244]

I have noticed a lot of posters are gone. Even a moderator. Life is too short lets be nice to each other.

 

[Tor Arne]

I try my best to be polite, but since English is not my native language I run constantly the risk that something gets lost in translation. Experienced being called a complete idiot a couple of times but taking into account that this is the internet and people have a different behavior than in real life. But I must say that this is one of the forums with the best behavior among members.

 

[Luke'sScreenName]

My native language is 'Saracasm and Irony' which I often have trouble translating into 'Forum English.'

 

[newbury]

This used to be a nice forum and still is to a large extent. Many people are kind, caring, and this is a wide spread family of tractor nuts. Lately it seems that there are grown people acting like school kids. They are rude and insulting. If you can't prove it to me then I don't think you have a problem. In other words people owe them a video and if they don't get it the other person is a fibber. It is a shame, makes me feel bad for the person with the problem and the person who thinks that way. Wonder how many people have not joined, or left TBN because of junk like that? :2cents: Ed

I hope the video comment is minor. I often use a phrase like "pics or it's an internet rumor" just because we all love pics, especially of new tractors.

Ed: well said.

Regardless of political season, phase of the moon, 'time of the month', or if you just had a bad day, it boils down to the core reason a board like this is so valuable. A place to share experiences, ideas, and common interest. No need to 'prove' anything, just be kind, honest, and respectful. We all have our own ways of doing things, but need to be modest enough to be open to other's ways might work too, maybe even for ourselves. I've learned LOADS here, and other boards, it's no different than kindergarten, be nice, listen to others.

Thanks for a great site!

Time is also seasonal. I've only been here since 2009 but it seems every winter the flames wars get hotter than in summer and fall when we can all get on our tractors. Idle hands are the devils typist.

I try my best to be polite, but since English is not my native language I run constantly the risk that something gets lost in translation. Experienced being called a complete idiot a couple of times but taking into account that this is the internet and people have a different behavior than in real life. But I must say that this is one of the forums with the best behavior among members.

Actually it seems that most posters from nations other than the U.S. are more polite, use better English and have better spelling than the rest of us.

My native language is 'Saracasm and Irony' which I often have trouble translating into 'Forum English.'

Yup, same here, got to remember to add emoticons.
You did mean Sarcasm didn't you?

Those who are reading this (southern translation - y'all) may have missed the clamp down by Muhammad about two years ago where a number of the more "violent" offenders were warned then banned for a while.

Many of these offenders had hundreds, if not thousands, of posts without EVER mentioning a tractor and only seemed to post to promote their particular agenda. Usually it was political but sometimes just ranting against a way of life.

Some of those banned left parting messages to the effect that they would never return. Unfortunately some of those have come back and are back to their previous posting "standards" - hundreds of posts, nothing about tractors, all politics or complaints.

I expect it to only get worse as the US is now in a constant election cycle.

 

[LD1]

I guess I haven't noticed the change you guys speak of.

It takes all kinds to make up this forum.

There are lots of issues where a video or picture can be worth a thousand words. If I need a picture or video to help someone out with a problem, I have no issues asking for one. Its not because I dont believe they have a problem. Its because I really want to help, but am unable to due so based on their description of the problem.

I am sure we have all see the threads lacking serious detail. Like "My tractor wont start, can you please help". And nothing more...

 

[s219]

My native language is 'Saracasm and Irony' which I often have trouble translating into 'Forum English.'

That reminds me of some friends I met in college in Mass who loved to bust everyone's chops in good fun. It took a while to realize it, but years later I learned it's common behavior in some parts of the country. When I moved south, I was the Yankee and had to be careful not to offend with that same behavior. I can't help but make fun of myself and situations around me since it's a good way to deal with all the crazy parts of life.

Without question, TBN is among the better forums I have been on in terms of civility, friendliness, and most importantly, learning. You folks are a wealth of knowledge about country life and I learn something new every day. There are sometimes attitudes/agendas/rants in posts, but they usually stick out so much they are easy to ignore.

 

[RickB]

This used to be a nice forum and still is to a large extent. Many people are kind, caring, and this is a wide spread family of tractor nuts. Lately it seems that there are grown people acting like school kids. They are rude and insulting. If you can't prove it to me then I don't thinck you have a problem. In other words people owe them a video and if they don't get it the other person is a fibber. It is a shame, makes me feel bad for the person with the problem and the person who thinks that way. Wonder how many people have not joined, or left TBN because of junk like that? :2cents: Ed

I have noticed a lot of posters are gone. Even a moderator. Life is too short lets be nice to each other.

Well said. Couldn't agree more. My PM settings have been tightened and my ignore list grows. It's not the place it was 10 years ago.

Edit: Neither is the world we live in, but that's a poor excuse.

 

[TripleR]

I have noticed a lot of posters are gone. Even a moderator. Life is too short lets be nice to each other.

Couldn't agree more. Now if it starts down the wrong road, I just drop the thread and don't even offer an opinion if certain posters are on it. I don't have anyone on ignore as I've developed that ability on my own.

 

[uglyboywith11fingers]

Another kind of 'lack of common courtesy' seen lately, is that many posters forget to provide updates to their issue.
It would be nice to read about what resolved the problem, or just give a 'thank you' to those who helped them out of a jam by providing advice or posting a source of technical info.

Pete

 

[Deere Dude]

I did have some people on ignore but it is difficult following going through a whole page and only seeing one post, so now you are all my friends.

 

[bcp]

I did have some people on ignore but it is difficult following going through a whole page and only seeing one post, so now you are all my friends.

Did you check the "Check all" box on the ignore list?



Bruce

 

[murphy1244]

I did have some people on ignore but it is difficult following going through a whole page and only seeing one post, so now you are all my friends.

Thanks for todays chuckle!!:laughing:

 

[MossRoad]

Even a moderator.

Which one?

 

[murphy1244]

Which one?

Mike in PA has not heard from for awhile. I thought you had the scoop on everything?.

 

[ultrarunner]

I really appreciate TBN... not only for farm/tractor advice... also for some of the insights offered by members.

Always try to be respectful and not get personal.

A lot of the political stuff is simply the difference between those that farm or live the country life compared to those with what I call city values.

Agree or disagree... being civil is what makes for a good exchange.

 

[Qapla]

I do enjoy this forum and I hope I am not one of the offenders - don't think I have ever asked for a video or insisted on pictures. I try to be civil and give comments on matters I know about and to NOT offer "opinions" on on matters of repair or direction that I have no expertise in.

I have seen some of the increase in "less than civil" responses in some recent threads.

I tend to only read subjects I am interested in so I usually miss the "political" threads on TBN, since I am here for tractor and/or practical matters that pertain to tractor and tractor related matters.

I sometimes ask questions to get a clearer picture when someone asks for help. I also offer suggestions based on my experience - if someone has another idea, that is fine. If someone doesn't want to listen, that is fine.

I will say that something that I do tend to dislike is a thread that becomes bitter and nothing but a "I know best" back-and-forth. And, to make it worse, a thread that is started by the OP with what seems to be a simple question and it blows up into a heated thread that veers away from the actual problem that was posed - and to make it worse, the OP never comes back.

It might help if, when we start a thread, we would stay active in that thread and let it be known that the issue was resolved - That is what I try to do - that might help some of the threads from running away and deteriorating into nothing good.

Let's see if we can get TBN to be as friendly and helpful as it used to be and do our part to keep it civil.

 

[NoTrespassing]

I try to avoid confrontation on the web and very rarely get into a heated discussion. I actually get into more arguments in person than I do on the web. That said there is a little saying I have about being offended;

I'm almost never offended because I can only be offended by someone whose opinion I respect.

I might trade friendly jabs on the "friendly politics" forum though.

Kevin