Alright, this is what I am going to do. I installed a larger 100 micron spin down over the weekend and although it lasted longer between purges, it wasn't all that much longer. The issue with the spin down is that there is not enough surface area so it clogs faster. The big blue filters lasted longer even though the one was only 5 microns, but that is due to more surface area, being pleated and a longers, 20" filter. I decided to add a third big blue 20" housing with a 50 micron filters. So it will go water from well, to 50 micron, then 5 micron, then 1 micron, then the water softener then to the fixtures. I think the 50 micron will help all the filters last longer by removing the larger stuff first. I'm taking the spin out of the picture completely and sending it back. It just doesn't work for my situation.
I noticed with the spin down that it was filling up will black silt like substances. It was too fine to purge when I opened the valve. I had to remove the screen and scrub it with a brush to get that black stuff off. It was very fine. I'm guessing it is magnesium of what I read.