If you isolate the house from the tank and the pressure drops at all, you have a leak. You need to find where the leak is. There is nothing wrong with the switch, if it's set for 50psi cutout and the pump is making 35 it will never shut off, save your money. Since the pump is having difficulty making head, now be sure here, is the pump continually running or does it shut off? If it shuts off then it's making head greater than the switch cutout and there is nothing wrong with the pump unless the pump itself is the leak. There is a foot valve on the pump that closes to hold the system pressure when the pump shuts off. If the foot valve is leaking, a good possibility if you encounter sand, then it needs replaced.
The merciless pump people in my area charge $150.- to change out the $10.- foot valve, so if you have a friend or brother in law or some one to help you can definetly save some bucks to be spent on tractor implements. KILL THE ELECTRICAL CIRCUT AND BE ABSOLUTELY SURE IT CANNOT BE ENERGISED WHILE YOU ARE WORKING AND DO IT BEFORE YOU PULL THE PUMP. You may be going for a pump and foot valve, no biggie, use a 1" x 8' threaded gas pipe to pull the pitless adapter and fix the problem. If you have the black poly pipe like you said then there is not likely to be a problem if it is a continuous run without any buried couplings. When you put the new pump in be certain to use a propane torch to heat and soften the pipe before you tighten the hose clamps, you will get a better seal, and use two all stainless clamps, they are cheap. Make sure to wire the new pump correctly and use the waterproof splices made espicially for pumps. Keep the down pipe clean, no dog poop or any thing like that, you will be drinking it. And since your well is producing sand make sure you set the pump depth shallower than it is now, cut like a foot or so off the downpipe when you remove the old pump. Be sure to record the lenght of the total downpipe and pump assembly for future reference. Apply a light coat of clean vaseline to the seal on the pitless and put her back into position and then lean on the gas pipe, thats all it takes. When you are finished you will want to run that puppy a while from an outside faucett to get rid of some of the crap you will stir up.
Listen, if you don't think you can be sucessful then get professional help. It will cost a few bucks but you need water to flush the toilet and run the clothes washer and the missus is only going to be soo patient, I know first hand. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif
Best of luck,
Martin