What influence does the wife really have ????

mvoght · Mar 21, 2004

Uh...I am the wife, so I suppose I should just lurk on this thread, hoping to learn some techniques on convincing the spouse to buy, but....

Ah heck, I'm the spender of the family. We both make a nice salary, and we have his and hers bank accounts. His are bigger....because I'm the spender /forums/images/graemlins/tongue.gif. And because he recently passed me in income. For the first 13 years of our marriage, I made more than him, but now, he makes more than me...and he is responsible and saves.

I'm not exactly sure if there is a dollar amount on major purchases. I guess around $750 is about where I'd draw the line.

Currently, I'm building a new farm for us and sold the current one. I am looking for a new tractor, and sadly, I have to convince him that I can afford one.

I doubt if our arrangement would work for 99% of the couples out there, but it mostly works for us. We need to re-evaluate the bills once we get into the new house and figure out who pays what and probably set up an annual re-evaluation. We ended up with a bit of inequities in bills because when we bought our farm 11 years ago, he took the (fixed) mortgage, and I took everything else. Everything else got bigger, the fixed mortgage did not really, other than refinancing to a 15 year, but at lower rates. But...since I haven't had him adjust his withholdings, and I keep the tax return, that is my annual equalizer. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

Mel

herdfan · Mar 22, 2004

As with most above, stuff under a couple of hundred bucks is mostly just purchased.
Bigger things such as furniture, appliances, cars, tractors and implements are discussed. only problem is that sometimes she brings something up and thinks it was agreed upon and I find it a few days later /forums/images/graemlins/shocked.gif
We have a joint account so there's no hiding the cash flow (there shouldn't be any "money laundering" in a marriage anyway, IMO).
Sometimes, though, it's better to just get what you know you need and what is best for the family (ie - and not burying everyone in debt) and let the spouse know after the fact. It's often easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission. /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

gone · Mar 22, 2004

Maybe the tread sould have been,=how much do you respect your wives thoughts. The single guys must be the ones that do as they please,and the **** with what she thinks. this day and age it's a two way street,or you have an extremly dosile wife.I think the day of (whats yours is ours and whats mine is mine) are coming to an end

riptides · Mar 22, 2004

Interesting post.

My wife is my partner in all things money related. I earn it, she spends it. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

We had and have some things that just needed a tractor. The neighboors are great, but you know. When the horses showed up, those you know things doubled.

I ditched my Farmall, due to mechanical thingies and the old comfort factor with my wife. She did not like it, and well, it did have its limits on our property.

So I went new tractor shopping. For over a year..... narrowed it down and took the wife along for the final blessing.

She vetoed my selection, recommended I go think again.
I ended up taking her back one more time and showed her this model was it. She vetoed that too and recommended I go "larger". So I did.

She is happy with it, I am happy with it. And yes, I would have not gotten it if she had said, "no".

Whew...... /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif GLAD she said OK.
-Mike Z.

Mark_in_NH · Mar 22, 2004

( What influence does the wife really have ???? )
In my case. Absolutely None !!!

Gatorboy · Mar 22, 2004

( come clean and tell up really, how much influence does the wife really have in what tractor you purchase, how much you spend, where you buy, or how often you trade )

The answer should be the same as how much do YOU influence what your wife buys, how much she spends, etc.

fishdoc · Mar 22, 2004

About nine months ago my wife and I bought a house that she wanted. The only reason I agreed with it was I knew how much it meant to her to have this particular house that needed a lot of work (time and money). I am now enjoying doing a lot of the work and I'm appreciating what she saw in it. Anyway....... she made the statement after the purchase....."now that I have the house I want I don't care how much you spend on a boat"...... Well....... needless to say..... the boat I have now asked for a tractor.

Gatorboy · Mar 22, 2004

( I want I don't care how much you spend on a boat )

Do you know what the 2 happiest days of a boat-owners life is?

1. The day he buys the boat.
2. The day he sells the boat.

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You made the proper decision in getting a tractor instead.

Bob_Skurka · Mar 22, 2004

What if Junkman would have asked the question differently?

His original post was pretty much tractor specific. How much influence does your wife really have, which is the title to the thread is actually a differenct question.

In my earlier reply to his question, I answered honestly, my wife has no influence on the brand/features/price of the tractors I buy. But to answer the question posed in the subject line, I think that we would all sing a different tune. I know I would!

gone · Mar 22, 2004

(LOL) /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif I think we all have the Heman attitude around other guys but when we get home it's yes honey,no honey,thankyou honey. like i said she dosn't say color or size but the money part she get's involved. not to say get a Jinma over a massey or deere,but lets not go for the cup holder and leather wheel. not that i don't like Jinma guys i'm actualy thinking of one for a secound tractor. I'm glad i married the woman i did!