I agree.I deal with youth tennis.
We have not gotten to where girls play boys in singles.
Of all the troubles/issues, 8 of 10 are the parents.
One of our kids was NOT a gifted athlete when it came to basketball, but was very team oriented. She knew her place on the team was to be as aggressive on defense as possible during practices to work her 1st string team mates really hard. Then in most games they'd go up by 20 points quickly, then she'd get to play and she loved it. They'd keep passing her the ball and make her take the shot. One year she made 4 points! She switched to golf in high school. Ended up being a pretty good golfer, and made all conference team. She said, "Dad. No one tries to steal your ball in golf."I was coaching fourth grade girls basketball. Down by 2 going into fourth quarter. I announced the players. One of the girls ask me if another girl could go in for her because that girl is better and she wants to win the game
For that K,1,2,3 soccer league, equal time was one of the ground rules laid down by the YMCA for that age group when they started the league. The aim was that this would be a learning, skill developing experience. At that age, and especially in a town that had never seen soccer before, I agreed with the strategy. In my opinion, one good reason for deviating from that strategy would be to pull someone who was not making an effort.Funny. I coached my kids base ball team, young teens. At the time I owned and ran 2 different businesses, one a restaurant, the other, a traveling salesman. I probably had less time than any other parent. I loved it.
At the beginning of the second season i sent a question to each parent. Do you want to see all the kids get equal time or do you want me to coach to win. Out of 20? questioners, I received 1 back that said equal time.
We never won another game.