I was thinking about that after typing, and I can't swear it wasn't his wife or cousin. There was some female family member who arrived first, and was unable to convince him. As I remember it, the commander was only willing to get uniformed up and go speak with him when it became obvious that other tactics were not working. But I heard that story more than ten years ago, and of course our memory has ways of sometimes piecing together bits of other stories into one, and then convincing us it's right.