wngsprd
Super Member
DB Pilot, I spent a couple hours reading all of this thread. Started last night and finished just now. I'm glad you are patient and wise enough not to do something stupid that would get you in trouble with the law. You already pointed out that you probably should have dealt with this earlier but you were trying to handle it "neighborly". I can relate. I am new to owning property. I have owned houses before but only had land for the last 3 years.
I have made a number of mistakes in the way I dealt with people. Too friendly and open with neighbors about what I am doing with the land. Too trusting. I have made bad deals on the way I got my timber cut and cleared. Poor choices on who I hired as a forester, bad decisions on loggers, allowed poor follow up and in-adherence to contracts.
I have erred on the side of being a good neighbor and that has a cost to it. But I'm learning. my scales are getting thicker and I'm learning. I like being nice. But I have found that people need to be shown my teeth early on, just so they know I have some. You don't actually have to bite. You are simply setting realistic expectations. And you have to understand that just because you see something as reasonable, doesn't mean others do.
The neighbor you are dealing with is a jerk. And he is a thief. He is stealing use of your land. He didn't pay for it but he is taking use of it as he wishes. He is stealing the fruit of your labor. If you guys had something worked out ahead of time, it would be different, but you didn't, so it isn't different. The original guy who had the grapes planted should have fixed it right away when he realized they went all the way to your property(unless that was his original intent). This guy should have checked to make sure he could drive on your property before buying the place ( I gathered that this was how it all occurred, but I may have misunderstood the sequence of events.).
His attitude about the situation is terrible and the Sheriff is not living up to his job. You are getting the survey and the lawyer. And I'm sure the next time something like this happens you will still be nice. But you will probably be more firm. It is unfortunate but the world makes us a little rougher with each other the longer we live, just to get by.
I mark my property each year, and walk the line a couple times a year. I'll keep doing that till I'm too old to walk it and hopefully I will have my grandkids walking it by then. Good luck. You are right and that guy is wrong.
Perfectly stated. I haven't read your thread in a while, but hope you are still making good progress on your new land. I'll go catch up on it.