dave1949,
Thanks, I'm always glad to share what I've learned. Hate to see constant reinvention of working wheels

Fortunately I was out of state when the culvert at the road that gets its water from my pond and land washed out. The town road guys gave me some flack for sure; and they told me it cost $2000 to fix! Ah, something for my taxes finally!
I have an area where the water exits the spillway that is about 15' wide that is the barrier or dam that keeps the water in the pond. We dug out to where the highest water level would be as the water comes out of the pond and across the dam. The spillway is about 20' across at its widest point from side to side. This direction is perpendicular to the spillway. (The 'mouth' of the spillway, for descriptive purposes). Then the run from high water across the spillway from pond side to exit on the downside is about 12-15' (aprox).
The most important thing IMHO, is to add enough rock to stop the hydraulic pressure and possible leaks on the pond water side of the dam, and the spillway will take care of itself if the water can flow over it without too much resistance - hence the 12-15' for the water to flow almost horizontal until it reaches the downslope where it can do what it wants with little damage to the pond's structure.
Look at it like a picnic table. One side viewed from the end is in the pond, the table's top is like a plateau where water can flow but will not cause erosion. The other side is the outflow and once the water reaches where the table is sitting on the ground it can do little damage.
I would start with small rocks, 6-8" with many edges so that they will pile on top of each other and form a solid wall of resistance to water flow. So long as the inner wall of the pond at the spillway is solidly supported by this rock wall, flow and erosion of the wall will not likely occur. Bring the rock up to where you want your high water to spill over the spillway and then down the other side. Be careful in the plateau area to not cause too much resistance to flow with jagged rocks. This is a place with a good bed of smaller rocks, some larger ones, preferably flat or near flat, can be placed to keep the plateau from being washed downstream by unexpected storms or high water from snowmelt, etc. Same on the outlet side. Build a good base and then fill with larger rocks that are going to resist moving regardless of the volume of water flowing over, under or around. Had we used more anchoring rocks I might not have sustained so much of a washout as I did. When I re bolster the spillway, possibly this coming spring- when the rain stops and I find time, I will do just what I stated to alleviate further mishaps in future storms.