Update:
I thought it might be nice to close the loop on this, if only to say thanks for those who helped and to leave some advice for any future searchers.
I got the WD hitch. It took a while for all the parts to show up, but I got it all settled and working about a week ago or so. I haven't had time to use my tractor lately, so it took a while to get everything ready but I haven't needed it until the past week, and I've been towing it a bunch the past week or so.
Here is my opinion on this: I should have just got a higher rated receiver for the truck. It would have been simpler in many ways.
I never had any sway instabilities with this setup before (when I was running over the hitch rating w/o WD). I still don't = no change. Steering in the truck is unchanged. Basically everything I could feel is unchanged. The one problem I was hoping this would help was the way the truck/trailer combo would "pogo" on the freeway due to the ripples from the way they screed the concrete. I do not have this problem when traveling w/o the trailer. This, sadly is also unchanged. So while I am now safely within the limits of my hitch, I have the added hassle of dealing with the WD hitch whereas if I got a bigger receiver, I could just hitch and go like before. Installing a receiver would have been a simple unbolt old,/bolt in new, so that isn't anything difficult, and the initial setup of a WD hitch takes a bunch of time also as you try to get all the settings correct. I think that would have been a wash either way.
Since I will have this truck a long time, I would have been far better off getting a heavier receiver. Not that the WD hitch use will be too difficult, but I could have avoided all that extra effort forever forward.
Other folks with different situations may have different answers to this. This is mine. I'll live with the WD.
Thanks again for all who helped, and I hope this helps someone in the future.
-Dave