Easements and HOA (HOA's) Home Onwers Assocaition's STAY AWAY!!

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Step son lives in a HOA community.. His wife was having a baby shower so there were a lot of people & not a lot of parking..
The next day they received a 200.00 fine for excessive vehicles.. WTF..
This past Thanksgiving we went over there for dinner.. yup, u guessed it.. another 200.00 fine for 1 wheel on the grass.!!!
The "plantation" I moved to has 1 restriction in the deed.. NO children.!! seriously, it says NO children..

Me thinks that "NO children" is against the law?

 

[TheMan419]

Me thinks that "NO children" is against the law?

There are many deeds out there from cities or hoa in the early 1900痴 that prohibit certain racial groups. Those still exist on the deeds but are unenforceable.

 

[MossRoad]

To me, being in a HOA is like odds of dating someone at work. It may work for a time, but sooner or later the crap is going to hit the fan and it's going to become a big mess.

In a perfect world, if you dated a girl at work, you marry her and live happy ever after, and if you belonged in the HOA, EVERYONE gets along and agrees on everything and you get to do with your home/property as you see fit since you paid for it. Rarely do we live in a perfect world...

There are general rules in life I've always lived by to make my life simpler with less headache. Dating girls at work was one of those rules when I was single, and not belonging to a HOA was another.

The saying "power corrupts" comes to mind as well when dealing with HOA's LOL

I worked with 6 couples at my last job of 30 years that met at our job, got married, had families, etc... Only one ended in divorce. It was the 2nd marriage for both of them and she had 3 kids from a previous marriage. So 80% success rate.

I met my wife at our job in high school. We've been together since the 70's.

A good friend and coworker of mine met his wife at his first job. They got married and had 4 boys. She passed away from cancer after 20 years of marriage.

Pretty much all relationships are 50-50 chance of success or failure. Depends what you and the other party put into it.

Same goes for living with your neighbors. I have about 8-9 close neighbors that I interact with. I get along with all but 1. She's mentally unstable due to alcohol and pain killers (that's according to her, not me). But even she now keeps to herself and there haven't been any issues in about 10 years.

 

[Sigarms]

I worked with 6 couples at my last job of 30 years that met at our job, got married, had families, etc... Only one ended in divorce. It was the 2nd marriage for both of them and she had 3 kids from a previous marriage. So 80% success rate.

I met my wife at our job in high school. We've been together since the 70's.

I've got to ask, out of the 6 couples and you and your wife, did everyone stay at the same job after they were married? That was a caveat that I fogtot to mention. Generally speaking, you meet and marry someone at work, generally someone leaves the work place, particularly when you're married for a long time.

Both my wife and I are in our 50's and work full time. We never worked with each other LOL

 

[MossRoad]

I've got to ask, out of the 6 couples and you and your wife, did everyone stay at the same job after they were married? That was a caveat that I fogtot to mention. Generally speaking, you meet and marry someone at work, generally someone leaves the work place, particularly when you're married for a long time.

Both my wife and I are in our 50's and work full time. We never worked with each other LOL

For the most part. Over the years, some spouses got terminated during layoffs and reduction in workforce. One left for another job.

- The ones that worked in different departments had no problems.
- The ones that worked in the same department, but were coworkers with no supervisory oversight over of the other just continued working as usual.
- One was a VP. He started dating a subordinate, which is a big no no. When they decided to get married, the company switched her supervisor to a person in another department so it wouldn't violate company policy! That one was kinda funny, because while she still worked for him, he couldn't tell her what to do, didn't handle her reviews, didn't determine her salary and raises, etc... she'd remind him of that often. :laughing:
- Thinking back on it, I even had a married couple that had been working there so long, one of their children got hired and all three of them stood next to each other working in production.

These were a mix of office and production people. All walks of life.

And yes, there were some dating horror stories at that job as well. Some of them transferred out to other departments to get away from each other. One guy quit because he was heartbroken. One woman dated about every good looking guy in the company at one time or the other. She never got married, and rarely stayed with a guy for more than a couple years. There were a couple guys that got into fights with other guys over a woman, etc....

It's life.

While not married and dating related, there were also many families working there. Parents, kids, nieces, nephews, siblings. Several generations.

With 500 people in close proximity, nature's gonna take her course eventually.

 

[MossRoad]

As for my wife and me, no, those were high-school jobs. We dated for 6 years before we got married. She's been at her permanent job since she was 19. I was at my job for 30 years until they outsourced production. We worked about 2 block away from each other, and for about 25 years we were on the same schedule, so we rode to work together every day, ate lunch together several times a week, hung out with each other's friends at lunch and at social gatherings, and generally lived a pretty good life! :laughing:

 

[k0ua]

To me, being in a HOA is like odds of dating someone at work. It may work for a time, but sooner or later the crap is going to hit the fan and it's going to become a big mess.

In a perfect world, if you dated a girl at work, you marry her and live happy ever after, and if you belonged in the HOA, EVERYONE gets along and agrees on everything and you get to do with your home/property as you see fit since you paid for it. Rarely do we live in a perfect world...

There are general rules in life I've always lived by to make my life simpler with less headache. Dating girls at work was one of those rules when I was single, and not belonging to a HOA was another.

The saying "power corrupts" comes to mind as well when dealing with HOA's LOL

I think you stated that very well. There is always some SOB that wants to control you just because he can. You know like a tire over off the driveway into the grass, or 5 cars out front during Thanksgiving.

Sure there might be things I don't like about what a neighbor does with his property, but then I just remember, I didn't pay for his property, I don't pay the taxes and I don't make the mortgage payment either, and it just isn't any of my darn business. And likewise when I put up a 40 foot tower with antennas on it, it isn't any of my neighbors business either.

If I want to work on my tractor in my driveway, that isn't anyone's business either. People that try to control the actions of others because they don't agree with their thoughts or ideas just need to leave folks alone.

 

[kenmac]

Same goes for living with your neighbors. I have about 8-9 close neighbors that I interact with. I get along with all but 1.

I don't care where you live, There's always that one ! LOL

 

[Sigarms]

I think you stated that very well. There is always some SOB that wants to control you just because he can.

From my own personal experiences, I made that statement (about power corrupting) not from ever being in a HOA, but from participating in volunteer organizations. People will be people, no matter where you live or travel.

 

[Timm250]

I think you stated that very well. There is always some SOB that wants to control you just because he can. You know like a tire over off the driveway into the grass, or 5 cars out front during Thanksgiving.

Sure there might be things I don't like about what a neighbor does with his property, but then I just remember, I didn't pay for his property, I don't pay the taxes and I don't make the mortgage payment either, and it just isn't any of my darn business. And likewise when I put up a 40 foot tower with antennas on it, it isn't any of my neighbors business either.

If I want to work on my tractor in my driveway, that isn't anyone's business either. People that try to control the actions of others because they don't agree with their thoughts or ideas just need to leave folks alone.

Well said.