My doctor is a women. She is also my wife's doctor. My wife has a PhD in nursing with almost 30 years experience working in hospitals. The old saying about the nurse knowing who the bad doctors are is something that I believe 100%. She believes that our doctor is the best one in the hospital, and so far, I don't have anything to say otherwise.
The best thing about being married to a nurse is the BS meter. I've never had her step in on anything medical for me or her, but she did have to step in with some of the things my parents where dealing with. Before she found the right doctor for my parents, they just went to the local hospital and found a doctor on their own based on their insurance. This guy never examined them, and when they had an issue, he was always wrong. Dad had swelling in his hand and his doctor said it was arthritis, and he prescribed some meds for it. The swelling got worse. That same doctor looked at him again and even brought in anther doctor to look at his hand. Nobody took blood. They decided to change the medicine to see if that helped. Dad's hand got even worse and his arm started swelling up. My wife stepped in and took him to the Emergency Room and sat with him when the Emergency Doctor came in. They drew blood and found out that he had been bitten by a spider. Treatment changed and dad made a full recovery.
When dealing with Vets for our dogs, we've had a lot of BS from them too. It's really been shocking how many use old equipment that isn't accurate, rely on first impressions without doing full examinations, and just randomly prescribe meds that don't work, and then just switch to another med, and then another med without any relationship to the previous meds. Just random guessing on treatment. Over the years, we've seen at least 20 Vets in our area. We feel comfortable with 4 of them, with one of them being exceptional.
I feel sorry for everyone that doesn't have somebody that knows what's going on in the medical world, and who to avoid. It's all about who you know if you want to get the best treatment.