First Marriage in your 60’s?

[akadave]

I had my kids around 40 and honestly looking back it was later than ideal. I definitely had more money and wisdom than my younger self but I didn't always have the energy. I coached little league for years and had grandkids of my high school classmates on the same team as my boys. That always seemed strange to me

The most important factor to me though is being married when you have kids and staying together. Many of these young marriages don't work out. My wife is younger and we're still happily married many years later.

 

[MossRoad]

I had my kids around 40 and honestly looking back it was later than ideal. I definitely had more money and wisdom than my younger self but I didn't always have the energy. I coached little league for years and had grandkids of my high school classmates on the same team as my boys. That always seemed strange to me

The most important factor to me though is being married when you have kids and staying together. Many of these young marriages don't work out. My wife is younger and we're still happily married many years later.

I know people that had children when they were young and some that had them when they were much older. And some that had them young, waited 20 years and had more.

To a T.... there's no 'best' way to do it. Only what works out for you and only if you're willing to put the work into it, no matter the age.

 

[Suburban Plowboy]

I didn't think I would ever marry. My efforts were cursed all my life. I quit trying, got closer to God, and enjoyed life.

A buddy of mine is an online dating fanatic. He married a horrible controlling feminist who abused him for two decades, and once he got free, he was determined to find someone better. After they were divorced, she flat-out told him she had devoted her life to destroying him. He kept badgering me to look for a wife.

I finally broke down and tried it. I wasn't looking for *** or a cook or maid. I wanted a prayer partner, someone to do good things for, and someone who would be helpful. So many times in life, there are challenges two people can handle much more easily than one. "Watch my luggage while I use the men's room."

I tried a couple of the popular sites, and I was attacked by swarms of scammers from other countries. I think most were men pretending to be women. I learned to smoke them out. I remember saying, "Nigeria?" to one. He or she responded, "Togo." I actually had some friendly conversations with women who had admitted they were lying.

I quit for a while, and then I tried another site. I got one false positive, but she turned out to be a slave to prosperity preachers like Osteen, Copeland, and Jakes. Then a younger woman signaled that she was looking at my profile.

I figured she must have been websurfing without her reading glasses.

It turned out she was actually interested, and we started talking. That was in March of '21. In July, we got married on Zoom. It took two years to get her here because of covid and the giant backlog caused by illegals and scammer immigrants. We had to get together overseas. I proposed on a Nile cruise. We honeymooned in Turkey. We couldn't go to nicer destinations because most countries think of African passports as toilet paper.

Our son was born this February. He is wonderful. At 9-1/2 months, he is the size of a 15-month-old. Very smart. Big mitts like a polar bear. Smiles and laughs all the time. Makes the funniest noises you ever heard. Farts like a moose. Gets into everything and breaks whatever he can. We are completely crazy about him. We are not going to stop with him.

We have long prayer sessions together every day. We agree on politics; she is really more conservative than I am. We almost never have cross words.

I am 27 years older than she is.

My buddy is still single. I was brutal when I wrote my online profiles. I told women about my prayer life and my politics, and I told them not to even bother me if any of it bothered them. My friend told me to be inclusive, like him. He would accept just about anyone who claimed to be Christian. He drew a lot of nuts. Nasty old women sent him gross naked photos and begged for *** like donkeys in season. I told him he was using the wrong bait, so he attracted the wrong fish. Maybe some day he'll listen.

 

[akadave]

I know people that had children when they were young and some that had them when they were much older. And some that had them young, waited 20 years and had more.

To a T.... there's no 'best' way to do it. Only what works out for you and only if you're willing to put the work into it, no matter the age.

Willing and able don't always go together. I understand everyone's experience is different but there's not much to argue about younger people having more energy and physical abilities.

 

[MossRoad]

Willing and able don't always go together. I understand everyone's experience is different but there's not much to argue about younger people having more energy and physical abilities.

I didn't lose much energy until last year when my back called it quits at age 63. Speed? Yeah, I started losing that after age 42, but energy is a different thing.

My folks asked me if I ever thought I'd missed out on anything because they were older than all of my friend's parents. I told them I didn't notice until they brought it up. And, no, I had a great life as a kid with them.

Years later, my aunt and uncle asked me how I felt about having older parents. I told them I didn't miss out on anything and why would they ask me such a thing? Turned out they were expecting their 3rd child about 15 years after their 2nd. They hadn't planned it. Me, being the smart ass nephew told them "You know, they know what causes that." and gave them a wink.... They laughed hard. Apparently my aunt was concerned and asked my mom. My mom told them to talk to me.

 

[FullMetalBucket]

The parents I saw at events were typically older than my era growing up, but I was on the older end for sure. That being said I was the one who had to teach and demonstrate how to do kart wheels etc for my twin girls.