Sorry winston, when I read your post, I was thinking you were meaning the main valve (I think that's what it is called) that is across the valve block the other way not the main relief valve. I was confused when I read that as I hadn't gotten far enough in to understand what I was dealing with and was focused solely on getting the DRV out as I believed that to be my culprit. The diagram does seem to indicate that maybe it does come out, but I haven't been able to get back to tearing more parts off the tractor.
What I am also finding now is there were no shims between the delay relief valve and the spring. From what I can tell, they are supposed to be on the DRV side and not the main valve side and are needed to up the pressure on the shifting. I am beginning to wonder if not having any shims in there at all would cause this problem of not getting the transmission to engage? I can usually get it to engage, it just takes a lot of shifting between gears (throw it in reverse, then 1st/2nd/3rd, and back and forth until it starts to roll a little bit) once it grabs, it's good to go, but if I disengage the clutch, I'm back to square one...
Does anyone know the size of the shims (from what I can find they are .5mm thick but haven't found the ID/OD of the shims) and the number of shims that should be in there for a baseline to start with? The parts manual just points out where the shims go but doesn't say how many should be in there by design.