If you have a grapple you need to watch this video produced by Messicks which shows how easy it is to create very high pressures in the loader hydraulic system.
Increasing the grapple cylinder size will just further increase the pressures you can create possibly leading to damage
How grapples can be dangerous! Protect your hydraulic system. - YouTube
Dave M7040
Why not install a cushion valve to try and limit the damage along with better operator training?