Ironpig, don't worry, your tractor was designed to be USED. Do it.
Just be sensible.... think for a second about how to baby it when it is under extreme load. Think of your rear wheels as a fulcrum. With lots of weight hanging off the 3ph, you can lift front wheels off the ground, thus no stress on front but all tractor, FEL and 3ph weight is on rear axle. Alternatively, insufficient rear weight and extreme weight in FEL will lift rear and combined tractor and FEL contents weight is on front axle. These are the extremes and of course you don't want either.
So, simply prepare for the load when you are going to do heavy FEL work.
Max pressure in front tires to keep them from rolling off of rims.
Heavy, heavy 3ph counter weight to reduce/avoid strain on front axle and tires. I hang about 1000lbs on 3ph when doing FEL heavy work.
Trust that with hydraulic pressure at high end of spec range the relief valve will protect you from overloading the FEL/hydraulic system.
Go have fun!!