Are my parents to strict?

[Cub124]

Sometimes best to let a sleeping dog lay than to awake a angrey wolf.
It's only a short year. save your money to pay ones way until employeed because of the experance you can give to employer.
Best wishes
ken

That's what I'm going to do. Thanks for your insight.

 

[CompactTractorFan]

when i was 17, i was drinking the booze and being with fast women all night. I wouldnt trade those days for nothing hahaah. That would suck to have strict parents. sneek out the house and have fun memories like me:thumbsup: or, have no fun memories and deal with it

Hmmm...I don't know if that is excatly the best advice.............

 

[shortthrow50]

That'll make you go get a good job. I'd rob a bank before I'd go back to Milwaukee's Best or Canadian Mist! Still crave a PBR now and then though!

yeah but after that, i enlisted 4 years in the navy and grew up "a little". Had fun but also learned responsibility. Still raised **** though serving in desert storm and pulling into ports. good times!:thumbsup:

 

[Depmandog]

I would suggest getting a part time job. If your parents say no, have a well rehearsed list of reasons why you should, starting with I want to give you guys a part of my earnings (because I know hard hard you work, money is tight, I want to become more responsible, I want to have something to tithe to God, etc).

If you can get out of the house for a few hours each / every other day...I think it will improve your outlook.

Save every penny you can for when you graduate Having a little nest egg (stash of cash) for "emergencies" is very liberating. And of course, you will need some cash when it's time to move on.

I had a series of foster parents growing up, so while our situations are not exactly similar, I understand what you are saying / feeling. Trust me when I say this last year will go by quickly.

 

[MarkV]

Are you planning to attend college and will you have any choice as to where? If so you will be on your own, more or less, in another year. Military can still be an option but it offers a better career opportunity if you have a college background. Many also find that their career choice can change with exposer to all the options and types of people you see in a college setting.

MarkV

 

[jobguy]

I spent 20+ years helping young people make career and life choices before and after Military service. People who had served in the Military for any amount of time seem to be better at making the right decisions and are more independent then those (in general) who do not serve. The Military will teach you how to lead when it is your turn to lead and how to follow when it is your turn to follow. You will also have a career while you are in and when you obtain your discharge (from the Air Force).
I have seen 40 year old men unable to function because they had not moved away from their parents control. I have also seen young people like yourself who joined the Military for the same reasons you have stated become better for the experience.
You may need to reassure your parents that in the Air Force you will most likely not have someone shooting at you.
It is your own attitude that will determine if you gain from your military experience. As I read your posts it is easy to see that your maturity is already far above the average person. I'm sure you will do well.
By the way.... stay away from drugs, excess alcohol and (loose women).

 

[forgeblast]

As a parent I can tell you decisions on what is allowed come from fear and trust.
Its a fine line, too much fear and not enough trust can push a child away and too much trust and not enough fear could lead to some problems too.
It sounds like(imho) that they are running a bit more on the fear spectrum and it will be up to you to build their trust. Its difficult and will take a lot of back steps but finding out what you can do for them to trust you more might make it easier on you.
I can understand your frustration. I would second the job search. One it will give you experience, two you might be able to find a job with a witness at your parents church which would ease their minds also. Best of luck.

 

[aczlan]

Sorry, I guess this was kind of just me venting a little bit. Any ideas of how I can get them to lighten up a bit and give me more freedom?

As someone who was homeschooled in a large family and has several younger siblings who are rebelling from my parents rules, I would say that your parents are probably doing this for one of two reasons:
1. It is a nasty world out there and they are trying to protect you from it as best they can.
2. You, a friend or a child of an acquaintance has done something in the past that makes them afraid you might do something foolish in the future and they are trying to protect you from doing stupid things that you will regret down the road.

In my parents house, while you live there and they are paying for your room and board, they reserve the right to check your ipod, other devices and room for "bad stuff"
Is that a good thing? I wish it wetrent needed, but I think that it helped keep some of my siblings from doing things that they would have regretted for the rest of their lives.
Could it (in your case especially) be done in a more friendly or diplomatic manner? Yes, but nobody is perfect (you and your parents included).

As for a blanket restriction on friends who arent Witnesses, I disagree with such practices.
IMO, children should be taught what it right and should be able to stand up for their own beliefs without having to be prohibited from hanging out with children of other denominations (the proverbial "bad apples" or troublemakers aside).
Our 2 yo daughter has many friends who are not of our religion and will continue to do so. It will help her appreciate what she has and broaden her horizons.
At 16, I was not willing to do much more with high school, so I went to work for our next door neighbor who ran a HVAC company. I was working 8-12 hour days in hot attics running HVAC lines with guys who didn't have very clean mouths or morals. Would I recommend it for anyone? No, but it helped me get motivated to go to college and work on my degree. It also made me appreciate my next jobs working for a Church member who was an electrician and then for a software company.

As a parent I can tell you decisions on what is allowed come from fear and trust.
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I can understand your frustration. I would second the job search. One it will give you experience, two you might be able to find a job with a witness at your parents church which would ease their minds also. Best of luck.

I agree, you might be surprised with what they will let you do if you cooperate and work with them to allay their fears rather than pushing back.

Aaron Z

 

[Cub124]

Thanks everybody for your insight and advice. I'm going to look soon for a part time job someplace.

 

[chucko]

What makes you think if you did not like being bullied you would like the military? That is about all basic training is is being bullied