Interesting discussion. A lot of good info. Some less good. I won't spend any time nit-picking technical stuff. The advice to see a rheumatologist, or an internest with experience with rheumatological diseases is a good idea. Any competant internest or family practice physician can tell you if a consultation with a rheumatologist would be beneficial.
There are two things that I'd throw out:
First, rheumatoid arthritis is often misdiagnosed in both directions. Sometimes the diagnosis is missed. Sometimes it is made erroneously. It can be a tough disease to nail down, even for rheumatologists. This frustrates people who really want a firm diagnosis like you can get with strep throat or high blood pressure. And sometimes this makes them think their doctor doesn't know what he's doing. I get lots of reports back from rheumatologists with 'tweener' diagnoses like seronegative RA or unspecified connective tissue disease. So find a good doctor that you trust and be a patient patient. Diagnosis can be difficult and treatment can be hit or miss. And for those few who criticize doctors in general for not having a magic pill, well, it may come as a shock, and many of us might not like to admit it, but we can't fix everything and often times 'fixes' can be nearly as bad as the problem. That's not an excuse, its just reality.
Second, I think folks need to be careful comparing the effects of RA vs osteoarthritis. While RA is a systemic illness and can be severe, the truth is that OA can be equally as painful and debilitating. OA can destroy hips, knees, hands and feet and result in deformity, severe pain, loss of mobility and independance. Erosive OA and OA of the spine can cause significant morbidity. OA is much more common and often no more than a nuisance, but severe and debilitating OA is hardly rare. And similarly I have patients with RA who have it very mildly and have little pain and take no meds. So just be careful about general statements about which one is 'worse'.