Nice job posting helpful pics, nothing much left to guesswork now.
On your loader valve you have a port marked PB. That will now lead to the inlet of your backhoe valve. Whatever hole that PB hose is currently hooked to, is what your backhoe return line will plumb into.
I seriously doubt you will have trouble with the backhoe weight.
Consider this: A
B6100 tractor is much smaller than yours, ~1000lbs bare weight. Its 3pt can only lift 500lbs. Yet, they put a B670 backhoe on it which weighs 750lbs,
and it's fine. I should know, ive been fixing up my buddy's 6100&670 for too long, a year this month, and ive put some hours on it and its JUST FINE.
Now could you get away with the backhoe without already having the front loader? No, not really. But you do! So, carry on.
As far as putting stress on the tractor, sure some is more than none, but the factory backhoe subframes ive been around are hooked up in such a way that they protect the tractor very well from anything other than you picking it up and dropping it hard repeatedly (user error). The top link is really only needed (if at all) because the backhoe/subframe assembly is, aside from the digging arm, a giant L with the long end sticking under the tractor and the short end sticking up behind the tractor. The top link is mostly there to keep you from changing that 90 degree angle in the L, to some other angle. But you can set the top link in a way where for it to put tension on the top link bracket, it would have to bend the subframe mounts first. But i wouldn't even worry about it!