Bird, That is typically true here as well, one family-one meter. As both sites are on the same parcel of land A N D it is the same family, they are accomodating. They treat it like a mother-in-law cottage by "the main house" although it is 3 bed, 3 bath, 2200 sqft, and 1/4 mile from my site for which I haven't had time to design the main house (soon, isn't that what long winter nights are for?)
What they are very adamant about is the issue of interconnection of private water sources with rural water. Rightly so, water of unknown quality and safety shouldn't be introduced into the rural water system. Even if it was only a microbiologic problem and not chemical there might not be enough chlorine and time to kill the bad guys prior to delivery to a neighbor. Mom's house is on my well now and will be connected to rural water as soon after the main line (6 inch) passes us on the highway as is practical (they are within a couple miles and heading this way). They don't want any Rube Goldberg interconnects with backflow preventers or the like, they want physical separation. I, no doubt, like others, was planning on some valving to retain source selection capability but that is a big no no so I'll devise a switching system with unions or the like to do the switching with no possibility of simultaneous connection to both sources or of interconnecting the two sources, rural and private, at any time. Too bad, I don't recall ever seeing a single pole double throw valve.
Any comments regarding water softener issues such as these: How much salt will a septic system tolerate? How succeptable to freezing is the softener unit? I don't think the brine tank would be much of a problem and heater tape would protect the external plumbing but I'm not familliar with the internals. Do manufacturers offer heater kits or winterization options besides draining for the season or is everything accessible for DIY heater tape? I ask these things here because frankly the typical telephone answering person at a sales org has no clue and or will put out bogus info.
It has been decades since I had a softener and that was in sunny SOCAL on city sewar so I never had to get smart and the design and layout might have evolved a bit in 40 yrs. I know there is an expensive substitute for salt (non sodium based) available for softeners now, if you choose to use it. On subject of softeners... If you are a low sodium person and reduce your sodium intake (one meal a week at a fast food chain will probably supply all the sodium you need) then be cautious of softened water as it is typically quite high in sodium. After all that is how it works (salt version) sodium ions are exchanged for calcium ions so calcium (hardness) is removed from the water but is replaced with sodium. I plumbed my ice maker to use Reverse Osmosis water to avoid the sodium and still not have "snow storms of calcium falling from the cubes.
Patrick