rox
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Nice post William, take care.
death notice
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gotrocks
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William, you don't know me and I don't know you, but when I read your post my heart and head felt sorrow and prayerfull for you.
Our belief is that the more you love someone the more it hurts, and you don't get over it you only get through it.
God bless you.
Our belief is that the more you love someone the more it hurts, and you don't get over it you only get through it.
God bless you.
CT_Tree_Guy
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William,
I'm very happy to hear that you're going to be teaching someone some of your many skills. I'm also very proud of you for keeping going in the face of such sadness. Life sure is "bittersweet"; so much happiness and laughter, so much pain and sadness. Please feel free to "lean on us" whenever you feel like it; you'll get through this, I feel very sure of that. Not "over it", as "gotrocks" (Norris) said, but through it.
I was wondering if you have any children or grandchildren close by? Family sure can help at times like these, but as I said, I think you've got a pretty big "family" right here, too.
Take care of yourself, do good things for yourself, and keep looking at all the good things that are still here for you to enjoy, including all the great memories you must have. In a very important way, no one is ever completely gone, once they've touched our lives.
You're in the thoughts of a lot of people ... hang in there, you'll make it.
John
I'm very happy to hear that you're going to be teaching someone some of your many skills. I'm also very proud of you for keeping going in the face of such sadness. Life sure is "bittersweet"; so much happiness and laughter, so much pain and sadness. Please feel free to "lean on us" whenever you feel like it; you'll get through this, I feel very sure of that. Not "over it", as "gotrocks" (Norris) said, but through it.
I was wondering if you have any children or grandchildren close by? Family sure can help at times like these, but as I said, I think you've got a pretty big "family" right here, too.
Take care of yourself, do good things for yourself, and keep looking at all the good things that are still here for you to enjoy, including all the great memories you must have. In a very important way, no one is ever completely gone, once they've touched our lives.
You're in the thoughts of a lot of people ... hang in there, you'll make it.
John
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accordionman
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HELLO TO ALL,
i tried to get back on this website when i got
home yesterday, but my isp was down. it is
now up, and running.
once again i want to thank everyone for their
support.
accordionman
wlbrown
wright city, mo.
i tried to get back on this website when i got
home yesterday, but my isp was down. it is
now up, and running.
once again i want to thank everyone for their
support.
accordionman
wlbrown
wright city, mo.
Glenn9643
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I feel your pain and wish you the best.
I'm working through a similar situation here I think. It's tough to bear the loss, but depending on the circumstances it might be easier on them to go. I've watched my wife suffer from side-effects of chemo and other medications going on five years and have often had doubts as to whether it was worth it for her... but it wasn't my decision.
I'm working through a similar situation here I think. It's tough to bear the loss, but depending on the circumstances it might be easier on them to go. I've watched my wife suffer from side-effects of chemo and other medications going on five years and have often had doubts as to whether it was worth it for her... but it wasn't my decision.
Bird
Rest in Peace
Glenn, I've noticed that you're retired Army. One of my wife's brothers is also retired Army, and his wife has also been on chemotherapy now for over 5 years. It now appears that her time is getting close. I know what a strain it's been on my wife's brother, and some even on us since my wife and the sister-in-law have always been very close, so I have some idea of what you're going through. I'll pray for the best for you.
wroughtn_harv
Super Member
A couple I'm very close to is going through a very similar situation. My father went through it with my mother. We lost her in 97.
Something I observed then and try to make people aware of now is that the caretaker starts the healing process long before the ailing person passes. I suggest what I call "embracing the moment". No matter how good or bad the moment is we need to embrace it because eventually we're going to review it. Some moments are going to be reviewed again and again questioning our reactions and motives.
We need to understand the reviewing process is what enables us to heal. And if we can look back and understand that we did the best thing we could have done under those circumstances then the healing process is easier.
I believe all of us understand the caretaker's role is the hardest role we'll ever have to do. In some instances, alzheimers, the patients have a tendency to outlive the caregivers.
I wish you well and appreciate your efforts for your loved one. One of these days you're going to have to deal with the loss of them, hopefully later than sooner. Dealing with that loss starts long before they're gone. Accepting that for what it is and embracing it understanding the care giving is it's own reward I hope helps in what is one of life's hardest events.
Something I observed then and try to make people aware of now is that the caretaker starts the healing process long before the ailing person passes. I suggest what I call "embracing the moment". No matter how good or bad the moment is we need to embrace it because eventually we're going to review it. Some moments are going to be reviewed again and again questioning our reactions and motives.
We need to understand the reviewing process is what enables us to heal. And if we can look back and understand that we did the best thing we could have done under those circumstances then the healing process is easier.
I believe all of us understand the caretaker's role is the hardest role we'll ever have to do. In some instances, alzheimers, the patients have a tendency to outlive the caregivers.
I wish you well and appreciate your efforts for your loved one. One of these days you're going to have to deal with the loss of them, hopefully later than sooner. Dealing with that loss starts long before they're gone. Accepting that for what it is and embracing it understanding the care giving is it's own reward I hope helps in what is one of life's hardest events.
ByronBob
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I couldn't understand your situation as I've never been there. I have thought of what I might do and it seems your going down that road anyway. You need to keep on living which means doing things that you have always loved.
I know my wife would still ski and rollerblade and such. I would still hunt, snowmobile ect.....Your welding and such is good medicine for a heavy heart. Just remember your wife would want you to do it just the same now.
Best wishes for you. Bob
I know my wife would still ski and rollerblade and such. I would still hunt, snowmobile ect.....Your welding and such is good medicine for a heavy heart. Just remember your wife would want you to do it just the same now.
Best wishes for you. Bob
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William,
Very sorry to hear of your terrible loss. Grieving is a normal thing to do, for some that period can last a long time and for others not so long. The loss will always hurt, but life does go on, and so will you. When you feel its the right time, immerse yourself in your hobbies and you will heal.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
scotty
Very sorry to hear of your terrible loss. Grieving is a normal thing to do, for some that period can last a long time and for others not so long. The loss will always hurt, but life does go on, and so will you. When you feel its the right time, immerse yourself in your hobbies and you will heal.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
scotty
Marlowe
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One caretaker to another, I know what you went through. It can be a very trying experience. Heartbreaking loss combined with nagging guilt. My mom lived with me when she had her stroke and subsequently died months later. I spent the last eleven days of her life in the hospital with her.
Get back into it brother. Life is great, even with the heartbreaks.
Tom
Get back into it brother. Life is great, even with the heartbreaks.
Tom
