Glad you liked the humor- it helps in these situations, IMHO. Stress reducer.
It would make sense that the heavy wiring would be where the glow plug relay connects. Why not trace the wire(s) from the heavy wiring to the glow plug wiring on the engine, ( the glow plug's buss) to see if it is connected. You could do this via the resistance, (Ohms) scale on your meter.
I wouldn't be surprised if the glow plugs are burnt out from the current short through the burnt relay and to the plugs on the buss. You can check those with a meter too.
I would think you could put the 70 amp relay where the burnt relay was, IF that location has the heavier wiring, AND if you are sure the burnt relay was for the glow plugs, (I don't recall what you said about which relay's location, etc.)
I don't think it would be rolling the dice to do what you've suggested; after all you won't be installing a rusted out relay, you'll be installing a known to be new one. And if there's smoke, disconnect the battery ground cable, having loosened it first. Wait a minute or so before trying to start the tractor to see if any firewall relay gets warm without doing anything with the key switch. If everything looks good try starting it and see where it goes. Then disconnect the battery and fix the glow plug circuit (replace plugs, as needed, IF they prove defective, (open circuit when tested).