We're talking about how tow capacities are calculated here, theoretical discussion. Totally separate conversation from the real issue of hitches falling off Teslas. You're quoting my post on subject #2, with an argument on subject #1.
But yeah, I've exceeded listed hitch capacity many times on many vehicles, especially in static or low-speed situations. But in these scenarios, you're only exceeding the listing, and not the real capacity, as the listing includes the safety factors associated with dynamic loading, all created by that ~1000# listed load bouncing along at highway speeds.
In other words, a hitch listed for 1000# trailer tongue weight at highway speed might be able to realistically handle a 4000# static load.