I think I get it now. It's all about how the weight is balanced between front and rear.
4000# bare tractor, no FEL, no rear implement. Weight is *approximately* equal on front and rear axles.
Add a FEL + load totaling 1000# to the front, you have not only added 1000# to the front axle, you have also transferred *some of the rest of the tractor weight* to the front, due to the front wheels acting like a fulcrum. And if the rears come off the ground, you have transferred ALL of the rest of the tractor weight to the front wheels.
Now add 1000# implement to the rear, and you've rebalanced the tractor, causing the weight to be more evenly distributed between front and rear. You have effectively *reduced* the weight on the front wheels.
So.....with a 1000# load on the front, a 500# implement on the rear would reduce the load on the front, and a 1000# implement on the rear would reduce it more, etc. etc. keep adding weight to the rear and eventually the front end lifts off the ground, removing ALL of the weight off the front. A wheelie.
Is that sort of it?