Pretty much a matter of age and eyesight. When I was in my 20s, I welded with a #13 plate in the helmet, that was a long time before MIG or Gold filter plates.
When the gold plates came out, I dropped back to a #12, and loved it. I also have a different hood for MIG with a lighter plate because MIG produces less light than a 3/16 rod or 1/8 rod.
"Difficult to see what I'm doing" is more a function of lack of experience than it is a function of plate shade. Truth be told, once you've burned a few hundred pounds of rod, you don't really watch as close as you did starting out, cause you don't need to. At your stage in the welding process, I recommend you spend a little more time pre-planning the weld and positioning yourself to make the weld, and stick with the darkest filter plate you can see the deposit thru.
If you wear glasses, a big part of your problem could be the focal length of the glasses isn't the right distance for welding. I've watched a few [censored] good weldors go half nuts adjusting to new glasses/