I have the same problem on my tractor. I put a flow restrictor on the return line and adjusted it to a happy medium between lugging the engine down and moving the bucket, while reducing the floppyness. All my research thus far has indicated that I need a better control valve. However, I am not 'good enough' to figure out which one will work for my tractor.
Running the engine at higher RPM does seem to reduce the amount of floppyness, but not eliminate it.
If your joystick moves while bouncing over things, you might want to look at your linkage or retention system inside the joystick. That seems odd to me. Mine stays put, and I drive over some pretty incredible terrain. The 'neutral' position should not move like the stick shift in your manual transmission truck. It should be centered and not floppy there.
After a while, with my tractor, I have gotten used to the floppy bucket. Still rather annoying, but I have adapted. However, if someone recommends a better control valve that will work, I am willing to pay out the $$ to replace it forthwith!