Ill ask her for ya Bird and get back to you this week but the exact recipe I dont know off hand but what follows is my rendition...
In short she fry's some sausage crumbled up (this is one of our modifications to the recipe that was given to us) then onions then adds the super chilli's (jalapenos will be just fine maybe better for some folks) and okra sliced about a 1/4" thick. once that is cooked she makes a thin (that's the key-thin) seasoned flour and regular flour and a little corn meal batter (the proportions I wont guess I will find out though) and pours that into the frying pan and fry's it until its crispy on the edges and flips it and cooks that side good. It should be a thin pancake type arrangement and we slice it like a pie and I eat it with my fingers. It it is a variance from the thicker traditional southern okra pie recipe we started with fwtw.
Love to have that recipe myself. Here's a couple I had in my recipe file; we have fixed the Patties several times; very good.
Fried Okra Patties
1 lb fresh or frozen okra, chopped
1/2 cup chopped onion
1 t. salt
1/4 t. pepper
1 egg
1/2 water
1/2 cup AP flour
1 t. baking powder
1/2 cup cornmeal
1 t. garlic powder
oil for cooking
Combine okra, onion, salt, pepper, egg and water; mix well. In separate bowl, combine flour, cornmeal, baking powder, and garlic powder. Add to okra mix and combine well.
Drop spoonfuls of batter into about 1/2 inch of hot oil ( you could probably deep fry these too). Fry over medium heat until well browned on both sides.
Drain on paper towels. Sprinkle with salt when they come out of the oil for extra seasoning.
OKRA FRITTERS
2 cups of veg. oil
1/2 cup of flour
salt and pepper
2 cups frozen sliced okra thawed and chopped
1/2 small yellow onion diced small (1/2cup)
1 large egg
1/4 cup buttermilk
In large heavy skillet, heat oil over medium . In medium bowl, mix flour, 2/3 tsp salt, 1/4 tsp pepper. Add okra and onion and toss to coat. In small bowl, whisk together egg and buttermilk and add to okra mixture and stir till combined.
In two batches drop batter in 2 tablespoon mounds in oil. W/small spatula gently flatten each mound and fry till golden, about 4 minutes per side, flipping once. Drain on paper towels. Makes about 10.