Checking In
It's been a while since I last posted. Honestly I hope that I now have the time and energy to keep involved here. It's been a "clinically" interesting
, depressing, and stressful around here.
It's incredibly difficult and stressful to "clinically" assess the one you love and have lived with for ~45 years. There are lots of personal blind spots on my end. Watching Peg systematically shut down over this timeframe to the point of just sitting in the dark watching a blank widescreen TV for hours/days on end or watching muted movements on a TV screen doing nothing, saying nothing; barely going through the motions of living or maintaining herself excepting keeping me away from doing the laundry. The Red Flag Warning finally went up when I saw her watching a muted Jerry Springer Show episode rerun and she wandered off before the requisite hair pulling, clothes tearing buxomly catfight finale which unfortunately I did watch.
Our taxes are complicated. My Wife, a former accountant and CFO, could do our taxes with little difficulty, but not this year; and it stressed her out to the point it took her to the point of emotional shutdown and going into the dark side of her Depression/PTSD. Stopping her meds, self medicating in less that appropriate and healthy ways, poor self care, significant mental status changes (of various possible etiologies) did not help. She went into March with our taxes mostly completed (TurboTax®), and apparently put filing off until far too late with the extended filing date.
She was confused and knew it. What she did not know nor realize was that there were quite a few tax related institutional confusions to add to her own: Like never sent 1099R forms; inaccurate corporate tax reporting EIN's; confusing tech support from our 2 main financial accounts, Google, G-Mail, and TurboTax; confusing website directories, etc. It got to the point my Wife's laptop got confused as did her cellphone. That was all happening and I was still basically �uned out of her tax stuff until late last week. Fortunately for me all the tax work was essentially done and I was somehow able to figure out with a lot of support from our financial advisors and their staffs support what still needed to be done. Meanwhile and luckily, Peg did make an appointment with H&R Block for this Monday. It took two hours, but the Tax Specialist got it done and our taxes were e-filed. Monday night I got a call from the Tax Specialist. The H&RB tax program rejected e-filing, but a hardcopy (which I did not have) would be acceptable. Tuesday morning it was a run down to the Big City I got the tax forms, and they were filed.
A lot of confusions; and my own computers (2 Macs) which were out of the Tax/Finance loop became confused as well once they got involved in the confusion.
So far on a + note: Peg has since started to work out of her "bad" places in + ways. I have a better understanding of our investments, taxes, and finances. I have gotten all our computers less confused and working again. Our Happy Hours are a lot less happy than in the past and with no extended hours. Peg is getting a new Mac laptop. Brogen now outweighs me.(I hope that's a good thing.).
That's the news here. There´s still a lot of stuff going on with this concern. The property related stuff is going along fairly well. I need rain badly.
This is a place where grown old farts can share + and - "stuff" and tears that would probably not be shared anywhere else.
I know when I or any frequent flyer here disappears the other flyers start getting worried.
I also know when that happens the prayers and + thoughts start flying.
Thanks
Jay
