Grief from helping a friend.

[Scooby074]

They guy was a cheapass. Has no idea what stuff, especially machinery costs.

You did right by helping him. Time to move on, he obviously isnt the type to take responsibility for his actions.

 

[Taylortractornut]

I really hate this because at one time he and I were best friends. I think when he married his wife they bumped up to a higher status. I didnt mind looking at the machines as its kinda my hobby being an operator and mechanic. I talked to another friend of ours that said hes noticed the same attitude changes lately. Like he wants everyone eles to hold the Pi$$ bucket for them. Im not gonna worry about it anymore, as I have a baby comming in a few weeks and a few other things I need to get done here befre that happens.

 

[CurlyDave]

...I may go buy the old hoe from him as I may be getting into a boulder pit. His wife even said If I had loaned her husband my old backhoe he wouldnt have had to buy this one. I told her they need to learn a lesson in what the costs are in machinery owner ship.

I know this kind of couple. Help him sell, but don't buy it from him.

In their minds it will always be "their" backhoe and if you buy it and keep it running (no matter what the expense), they will tell everyone that you "stole" that machine from them by paying way too low a price...

 

[CowboyRon]

I really hate this because at one time he and I were best friends. I think when he married his wife they bumped up to a higher status. I didnt mind looking at the machines as its kinda my hobby being an operator and mechanic. I talked to another friend of ours that said hes noticed the same attitude changes lately. Like he wants everyone eles to hold the Pi$$ bucket for them. Im not gonna worry about it anymore, as I have a baby comming in a few weeks and a few other things I need to get done here befre that happens.

I've helped people in the past that have really screwed me good. The worst one was a brother in law that lived with us. I got him a job, and he thanked me by taking my truck out drunk and totaled it. I was telling my boss at the time, I'll never help anyone again. His response was, if you can't help people you just gave up on life.
Now a days, I find it better just to help total strangers, like older people or ladies broken down on the side of the road.
For the most part they are grateful, and I feel I have done my share.

 

[BMIGear]

No good deed goes unpunished. He is truley not the friend you thought he was. Wash your hands and dont look back. You cant fix stupid.

The above was exactly what I was thinking.

Its taken me awhile to learn that some "friends" just aren't worth having in your life. "Friends" like him quickly get filed in the Lessons Learned folder by me. Unfortunately for most of my everyday social interaction friends, I refer to that folder more often these days before I offer to help.

For my true friends and buddies, I'm there. No need to ask. No questions asked other than directions to get where you need me and what to bring.

I think the hardest thing is getting burnt by a "friend", that seems to sting more than it does when it's a complete stranger.

 

[jmurray01]

He wouldn't be a friend anymore if he did what he did to you to me!

You gave him good advice, helped him out, and what does he do ? Throw it right back in your face.

 

[JB4310]

No good deed goes unpunished.

Exactly! Happens to me sometimes. I end up telling myself that too.

Was at the dump a couple of weeks ago, I saw an old guy struggling to unload his truck, so I offered to help. As we were pulling the brush off his truck I got my feet tangled up and fell straight backwards on my butt, right into the thickest, gooiest mud wallow

I had clean clothes on and a brand new Carhartt coat. The guy got in his truck, mumbled "thanks" and drove away, leaving me standing there feeling like an idiot, caked in slimy mud.

I will still go out of my way to help people, but sometimes things happen that make you wish you didn't.

JB

 

[Illinoisdmax]

Sounds like my luck with friends. Hope things get better for ya.

 

[Robert_in_NY]

Sounds like its time to remove this "friend" from your Christmas mailing list I know all too well the type of friend you described and have been weeding them out of my day to day life. Spend your time and energy helping your good friends that deserve and appreciate the help.

 

[Sigarms]

The worst one was a brother in law that lived with us. I got him a job, and he thanked me by taking my truck out drunk and totaled it

Luckily I've never had a relative total my car, but I did have a cousin who didn't show up for a job interview I set up for him (he had the job IF he would of showed up). Felt like a jerk when the guy called me to tell me he never showed up, no phone call no nothing. Same cousin later tried to sell me his "friends" rifle for $600. When I told him the gun wasn't worth $600 but $400, he told me the guy would really take $400 it

Friends at least you can pick and choose. Some relatives you can't.