Grief from helping a friend.

[Robert_in_NY]

If your exfriend paid $2250 for the Pettibone, tell him to sell it for scrap metal. The current is $50-$100 a ton and it weighs ( 10 tons ??? ). The Detroit maybe $1500.
$75 x 10 t = $750
1 engine = $1500
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$2250

Hows that.

Craig Clayton

Its $230-$250 a ton here. Just hauled a van in last week at that rate.

 

[MtnViewRanch]

Its $230-$250 a ton here. Just hauled a van in last week at that rate.

$340 a ton in Ontario Ca. for short iron. (Less than 48") Even more $$$ in Long Beach.

 

[HarryN]

Yikes... don't need friends like that for sure.
Really, it's just time to move on. Friendships do grow apart. As this one has.
Don't worry yourself "crazy" over this fool. You did all you could!

 

[Taylortractornut]

He has no way to scrap it and intact machinery here goes for 4 cents a pound and the big yards. I may have a home for it. Its in too good of shape to scrap.

I did give him some advice today he called to apologize and I went by out of pity in his voice. Sounds liek his wife and FIL and MIL have his sack. He bought it with money he inherited from his grandma. Anyway I went up to his place and we had a big talk. I did tell him my thoughts about it and I fixed the line actually a large 10cent oring. He was whiny about having to remove one of the clinders with my jib boom on the truck. It was about an hour fix.

I gave him a home remedy for whining. Take 2 grease rags soak them in diesel fuel and tie them around his ankles. That would keep the ants off his candy Arse

I told him he ll be on probation for a while. Ive had folks not show up for interviews before after bendong over backwards to get them a job and that burns.

 

[Hooked_on_HP]

I feel your pain.Good freinds are verry few. They are the ones that call or stiop by and don't want any thing. If you are in the middle of a project when they stop by they will offer to help. Like you I bring my service truck home. I ocasionally get a call from some one I know who needs a hydraulic hose and the local parts stores are closed. Some of them seem offended when I tell them I will have to charge them for the hose and fittings that we use.
Bill

 

[YanmarFever]

I feel your pain..

Being a tractor dealer, I have friends that want to borrow my machines, or my backhoe, truck, mowers or trailers.

I calmly tell them all the following..

Is our friendship worth $200 ? if they say yes, I tell them, then go rent one from a rental yard. Needless to say, I have managed to weed out the deadwood, and life gets easier

 

[gengine]

Funny thing happened to me a couple weeks ago...
I went to fill up the horse water tank, and my hydrant was froze. I built a fire around thie pipe and opened it up, and a few minutes later, the water started running. I filled up the tank, turned off the water, and water started coming out of my shut off valve buried next to the house. I went to the rental shop to price a mini hoe or a back hoe, ran into a buddy and told him my story. I have to note, I did not ask for help. I had to go out of town for the plumbing fittings and was gonna tackle the project the next morning. When I got home, there was my buddy with his back hoe, a giant hole in the ground and another buddy already in the hole fixing my pipe. Those are the kind of guys you need to keep around. I fueled up the back hoe and offered money, but all they took was dinner and beer. I guarantee if I hear of them needing a hand, whatever I am doing can wait. Granted, this happened on a Saturday, and maybe they didn't have a whole lot going on, but they still took their time to come save my butt.
We've all been burned. You go out of your way to help, but when you need a hand, there's nobody around.

 

[Garybake]

Taylor, people are all different and the nice ones usually you will not see requesting a helping hand. My experience was being the local mechanic and handyman who for thirty years in this house has put in his own inground pool, second floor doormer and helped every neighbor that appeared to be in a struggle of sort. I have rebuilt their motors in cars, and simply shoveled snow for others when they could not get to it. A couple years back a motorist hit me in front of my house as I was taking delivery from a truck. I lost my left leg and that next year was a real challange. Not one of those people shoveled snow, cut grass or even helped out my wife. They have their reasons but I will not be extending myself much beyond the very few who were greif stricken and shy but did come and offer get well wishes. "If only you were a desk jockey..." They meant well!

 

[Bob77064]

Some people appreciate, some expect and some demand. All we can do is try to help.

 

[two_bit_score]

All the reasons why you put this guy on 'probation' are legit and well supported by comments here so nothing else for me to add to that. You made the right decision.

I've got friends, acquaintances, people I know and not really well acquainted with, then there's the other category - drinking buddies.

Drinking buddies seem to fall into a category that can include all of the above but is still different.