Growing Old With Dignity

[RalphVa]

My mom didn't have much, but what she had lasted through several years of living in independent living and then nursing homes and still had some left over to give to each of us, with my wife managing her funds. We've a lot more; so we fully do not expect to be dependent on our daughter.

However, we're gonna try to stay in this 8.5 acre piece of heaven as long as we can before moving into something else. My wife says she plans on being carried out of here feet first.

Ralph

 

[shooterdon]

I have LTC (Long Term Care) insurance, so if I hit a bump in the road I can get care for three years. If the bump is a huge pothole, I have time to consider options. Assisted living homes are not terrible if you find a good one. My mom has been in one for 10 years.and she likes it. BTW, a great place for a man alone as the ratio is 5:1...LOL

I also have a do not resuscitate clause in my will. I will not exist as a vegetable.

To the OP....you seem depressed so be careful of that. It will affect you negatively and hasten your deterioration. I was serious in my first post about staying active and not thinking like an old person.

Like others here, I am in my little slice of heaven, even if it is only 20 acres in the middle of nowhere. I love it and do not want to leave unless I have to. I am in my late 60's and buying a new tractor that will last my lifetime. If I had low expectations, I would get a used machine...but like to "think young". My fiancé and I have talked about things. Might be able to stay here for another 10-15 years so why buy a machine that will last 25-30???

If you do not expect much from the things in life, (job, marriage, kids, friends, etc etc) you have a tendency to not get much. Health is like that too. If you smoke or chew, stop. If you drink to excess, tone it down. If you do drugs, stop. If it hurts to do something, push yourself a bit. I wind up working with pain a lot...but I work. My bottle of Naproxen has a 2016 expiry date and is half full.

Your attitude will affect you.

 

[widefat]

We have been considering a trust. Anyone have a trust?

 

[orezok]

Heck, I don't buy green bananas anymore. :laughing:

 

[JDAOWNER]

I PLAN ON LIVING FOREVER, AND SO FAR I'M DOING GREAT!!!

 

[rekees4300]

I'm sure many will take offense to this post but it needs to be said. Current medications are keeping folks alive well beyond their expiration date. What is your game plan? Hopefully it is not to expect your children to change your diapers and bath you. Adult heath care is ridiculously expensive and in-spite of your believe you are better than everyone you will likely be enrolled in Medicaid when your meager savings are exhausted. My MIL went through $500K in 8-years. So lets hear it, a heavy rock and a deep lake or you just planning on being a burden on those you claim to love? What irritates me most is believers in divine salvation are the most scared of dying. No one gets out alive, so lets hear it.

As a senior citizen I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately. At the appropriate time, I've decided to follow the not-going-to-be-a-burden route. This link may help those who also like that route but dislike pain. The vehicle is secobarbital. :zzz:

Should the terminally ill control how they die? - CBS News

 

[shooterdon]

We have been considering a trust. Anyone have a trust?

Yes. Set it up about 7 years ago. Cost about $2500.

 

[Doofy]

As a senior citizen I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately. At the appropriate time, I've decided to follow the not-going-to-be-a-burden route. This link may help those who also like that route but dislike pain. The vehicle is secobarbital. :zzz:

Should the terminally ill control how they die? - CBS News

Good article. Thanks

 

[AWSubie]

I’ll answer the original question first: my desire is to have my wife take my naked corpse out somewhere in the woods and let the wild hogs feast (they would make quick work of it). In reality should I become unuseful I will most likely need to determine the least messy way of ending my existence and then be cremated. As far as people living past their expiration date I can’t really judge that. I think everybody has their own views and fears about life ending and if someone wants to spend their
final years in a nursing home so be it; but a nursing home is not for me.

 

[Larry Caldwell]

Home health care is a whole lot cheaper than a nursing facility. We remodeled the master bath to be wheelchair accessible last summer, bought a power bed that is as flexible as a hospital bed, and we have an RV hookup next to the house. My plan is to stay at home and find an illegal Mexican couple to do the housework and take care of the yard, and a home health aide a couple times a week for medical stuff. A nice travel trailer with popouts, plus a couple grand a month should take care of it.