I've been following your plight and shaking my head in amazement. But it did come in handy for me just last week.
My neighbor's driveway is partially on my property. When he built it, it was on the vacant land next to my property, then I bought the vacant land (approx 3 acres), so now he is on my property. Just about 12". The issue came up because I wanted to put a fence up and the told me to move it over about 10'. I went out with a crew and shot the property line. My line cuts off the corner of his driveway and runs right through what he THOUGHT was his back yard. Turns out his driveway is on an angle and is not straight, so what he thought is really totally wrong. He said he was planning on paving the drive and asked if he could pave what exists. I plainly told him no, at least not unless he wants to negotiate a lease for the corner of the driveway, but absent of a lease, then he better not be putting any asphalt on my land. It was friendly but firm. I then took him back to the back corner of his property and showed him the surveyors stake so he would know where his property boundry is, when we walked there, he led the way, about 1/2 way through the woods he crossed my new property line and almost crossed the entire width of my vacant land before emerging from the woods. When we got to where he took me, I showed him MY property stake that was about 50' in front of us, it was the stake for the OPPOSITE side of my new land, I then walked him out into my soybean field and around a hillside to show him where my new property line abutted his line. I told him that was the START of his property and pointed roughly to where his property ended. We walked back up through the woods to the top of the ridge where his house sits and he told me he planned on putting a swimming pool up and it would cross the property line. I explained to him that he needed to make sure the pool was well within HIS property, and I also reminded him that I am the chairman of the architectural control committee and he needed to get his pool's location approved by me before digging!
Property disputes can get very ugly very quickly and I really am sorry you are facing the situation you have, but I also thank you for the education you have given us, and how we need to really protect what we have.
