RSKY
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My youngest daughter, her husband, and her mother-in-law have just gone thru ten days of complete ****. Her father-in-law had a fast acting cancer that spread all over his body in a very short time.
He wanted nothing more than to die with dignity. BUT, as most people will do when they don't realize how fast the disease can work, they put off the inevitable too long and when needed they could not get him into a Hospice. So he had to go home. The last week was awful, indescribable, and my daughter aged five years in five days. I dread seeing what the week has done to my son in law and his mother.
This man was a quiet, kind, soul who accepted his son's wife into his heart and loved her and his grandchildren greatly. He hung on suffering for days until my daughter recorded the grandchildren's laughing voices saying, "Hi" to him and the five year old talking to him with the not quite two year old saying "Papaw" over and over again. Then he turned slightly and gave it up.
The purpose of this post is to tell you that if you have somebody nearing the end stages of their life to please do all you can to put them in a Hospice Center where they can be taken care of by trained professionals. If you have a condition that is terminal please do not tell your loved ones that you wish to die at home. That puts all the duties of taking care of you in your final days on your family. What his wife, son, and daughter in law had to do this past week was beyond what a grieving family should have to do. My daughter was put in the position of having to tell family members, well-wishers, and 'sight-seers' that they could not come in the house. Sometimes forcefully. Of having to tell people that did come in to leave. Of calling the Hospice nurses and a friend who was one to find out what to do as his body deteriorated.
I am in good health now but I have made it clear to my wife and both my children that if the situation arises I do not want to put them in the position of caretakers in my final days.
No discussion is needed on this topic, please just read and heed.
RSKY
He wanted nothing more than to die with dignity. BUT, as most people will do when they don't realize how fast the disease can work, they put off the inevitable too long and when needed they could not get him into a Hospice. So he had to go home. The last week was awful, indescribable, and my daughter aged five years in five days. I dread seeing what the week has done to my son in law and his mother.
This man was a quiet, kind, soul who accepted his son's wife into his heart and loved her and his grandchildren greatly. He hung on suffering for days until my daughter recorded the grandchildren's laughing voices saying, "Hi" to him and the five year old talking to him with the not quite two year old saying "Papaw" over and over again. Then he turned slightly and gave it up.
The purpose of this post is to tell you that if you have somebody nearing the end stages of their life to please do all you can to put them in a Hospice Center where they can be taken care of by trained professionals. If you have a condition that is terminal please do not tell your loved ones that you wish to die at home. That puts all the duties of taking care of you in your final days on your family. What his wife, son, and daughter in law had to do this past week was beyond what a grieving family should have to do. My daughter was put in the position of having to tell family members, well-wishers, and 'sight-seers' that they could not come in the house. Sometimes forcefully. Of having to tell people that did come in to leave. Of calling the Hospice nurses and a friend who was one to find out what to do as his body deteriorated.
I am in good health now but I have made it clear to my wife and both my children that if the situation arises I do not want to put them in the position of caretakers in my final days.
No discussion is needed on this topic, please just read and heed.
RSKY
