I have had enough!!!

[Eagleview]

Looking on the other side , do'nt you have a foreman or someone at your branch that would jump at the opertunity to run the other buisness ? Someone with drive and the experience gained from already working with you . Most people would do anything to be given a chance like that .

 

[bigshovel]

I knew what I needed to do before I began typing original post, I just didn't want to admit it to myself. I have had a day or so to cool down and analyze my options. Thanks to all that listened to my rant. Younger brother will be replaced, I have made contact with a well respected gentleman from the industry that is willing as of now to relocate and run that entity. I will meet with him this Wednesday. Younger brother won't return my calls, that ball is in his court, the wife seems to be ok with my need to be out of town for a few weeks, seems to be and is are two different things. I just can't bring myself to close up shop and look ahead instead of back. I have alot invested in the branch location and the numbers are worth my time, not my current stress level however. I will set up the prospective "new guy" with an insane incentive program to keep me out of the day to day operations as much as possible. The training time of someone that does not come from this industry is 5-7 years until they begin being profitable and efficient. There is a huge difference between being capable and being trustworthy as hiring goes. Thank you all for your insight and reply's. I'll probably never know what it is like to not go to sleep stressed, wake up not stressed and be able to sit on a porch and relax but I try.

Brad

 

[slewisma]

... the wife seems to be ok with my need to be out of town for a few weeks, seems to be and is are two different things.

Will you need to work a ton when you're at the other branch or just keep an eye on things / help the new guy get started? Reason I ask is that I've found that sometimes bringing my wife along on a business trip can be a good thing. Not if I'll have to abandon her in some hotel all day and night. But if I'll work normal days or less, she can explore the area, shop, etc. during the day and then we can go do together at night. Even if she just came down for the weekends (assuming you can't get home) or the middle week of the three it might be a nice way to support each other.

I'll probably never know what it is like to not go to sleep stressed, wake up not stressed and be able to sit on a porch and relax but I try.

You will, you can't see it yet but it will come in time. I know. I once was a workaholic that couldn't stop. I still love my work but the balance is coming back and it isn't so bad.

 

[hayden]

On their death bed, nobody has ever said "I wish I spent more time at work".

20 years from now, nobody will remember or care about all the hours you put in at work, but your wife and kids will remember every birthday, holiday, sporting event, etc that you missed.

 

[czechsonofagun]

bigshovel what is your industry, if it's not a secret?

 

[Podunkadunk]

On their death bed, nobody has ever said "I wish I spent more time at work".

20 years from now, nobody will remember or care about all the hours you put in at work, but your wife and kids will remember every birthday, holiday, sporting event, etc that you missed.

Probably the wisest words I've ever read on this website.

-Podunk

 

[bigshovel]

Well here's where I am at the moment. I met with new prospect at length yesterday and this is what I AM going to do. With the new prospects current situation he will finish all of my contract work until contracts are fullfilled. Upon completion I will suspend operations in Virginia and he will return to his life as it was before I interupted it. This actually works out well for both of us in our given situation's. I am gratefull for his help, one of few that could pull this off, and he is gratefull as well due to his market "geographics" is slow right now. After further evaluation of my own existance, I need to get with the program. I have basically ignored my new wife, new home and all of my old friends for too long. Hayden is right, no one in their last breath wishes to have worked and ignored family more. I guess an awakening has occured on my behalf and I better make some changes and modifications to my life. Thanks all that replied for all of your input.

Brad

 

[Gravdigr]

Could be worse (or better depending on the point of view). My wife and I recently took over her families business. I worked for them for 14 years, and happen to live right next door to the in-laws. Try taking over a failing business and trying to make it work while your father-in-law/ex boss tells you everything you are doing different is wrong when it obviously didn't work when he did it his way.

There have been many a screaming match and close calls with physical violence and me warning him I'm the one that buries the bodies now.

Eventually it all smooths out. We had similar problems with my brother-in-law after I started working there and cought him imbezzeling the company right under his parents nose.

 

[Eagleview]

There have been many a screaming match and close calls with physical violence and me warning him I'm the one that buries the bodies now.

Why not use a 3' auger and bury them standing up ? You could get 3 in the same amount of space . You'll be ritch .

 

[Gravdigr]

There have been many a screaming match and close calls with physical violence and me warning him I'm the one that buries the bodies now.

Why not use a 3' auger and bury them standing up ? You could get 3 in the same amount of space . You'll be ritch .

If you can get a tractor big enough to run a 3' auger in my cemetery you're hired and no, you can't drive over the stones.