Dave, I think the Kubota guys have the most time on their hands and post that way. The Kioti guys scream the loudest about their brand. And the NH guys post substance and view the other forums. The reality of your situation (based on the thread you started in the JD forum) is that you got a "lemon" of a tractor and you bought it from a dealership that I would consider to be less than stellar. I bought a Pontiac from a dealership that acted similar to your dealership experience. I ended up going to mediation with G.M and the Better Business Bureau 4 times. Eventually I wised up and got rid of the car. I wish I had done it sooner. And anyone who asks about the dealership is told my story.
As for the NH tractors versus the Deere tractors. We have our warts just like every other brand. The TC33 is an awesome machine, lots of power in a nice size frame. The 14LA loader is very nice, you will notice the increase of visibility and ease of use of the loader very quickly. The next step up is the TC35, it goes up in frame size with little bump in HP, but the loader is stronger if you need a heavier duty loader.
I have NH and Kubota. Both are excellent. Kubota loaders are weak compared to other brands, and nothing in beats the curved arm NH loaders for visibility and the specs rate them very high too. Kubota's engines are very smooth. NH engines are smooth. Near as I can tell, all brands engines are reliable.
Good luck with your "lemon" of Deere. For your sake, I hope you don't repeat the mistakes I made with my Pontiac and try to arbritrate the situation. A lemon is always going to leave a sour taste in your mouth no matter how much the dealer tries to sugar coat it.