Just lost the greatest man in my life

[chad22]

He also wrecked his Blazer a few years ago, mom was with him at the time. He was eating some pork rinds and had got choked and his heart stopped. He went off the road and into some barbed wire fencing and almost hit one of those high pressure gas mains.

Mom said my dads head was leaning out the window as he was going through one of the fences and just before his head got within inches of the T-Post he woke up and pulled his head out the window.

It tore up the blazer pretty good. But he was able to drive it home after the cops left.

Weird thing is. A few weeks before the accident. I had a dream that my mom and dad were in that same Blazer driving down the road and a heavy construction crane fell sideways on the Blazer. They managed to survive as a guy pulled them out and they walked away with a few scratches.

Same as the accident that did happen they walked away with just a few scratches.

Chad

 

[Thomas]

My sincere condolences..special thoughts/prayer to thoses. <_____________>

 

[madmax12]

I hope my kids love me, now and in the future, as strongly as you love your dad. Life is challenging, and I've recently asked my kids to pray for me to be a better dad. I've been praying hard to be a great dad.

Among the many blessings your father gave you, among the most precious, was himself.

I'm so sorry you lost him... Your love for him will be an inspiration to me for a long time.

Praying for you and your family.

 

[pharmvet]

I want to thank each and every one of you who responded to my post. Last night when I posted it, I could hardly see the screen for the tears in my eyes. It has been very therapeutic for me to read your replies. I had a good day today. My oldest son and I took any and all remaining dialysis supplies out of my mothers house. They were making her sad. My mother is here now spending the night with us. My kids are keeping her very occupied she is excited to teach my 8 yr old daughter to use the sewing machine. If you will, what I really want to hear now are specifics from those of you who have lost your fathers. Please tell me in as much detail as possible what feelings and emotions you had. This request may sound strange, but I am a detail kind of person, and it seems to help hear how others felt. thank you

 

[phiferpharm]

Wow, remembering my Dad's passing really brings back emotions I haven't felt for over forty years. My Dad was as tough as nails. He rarely showed emotions and never showed pain, even though he had much of it in his last years. The only time I remember him showing emotion was the last time I saw him alive.

In 1971, I was getting my stuff put away and getting ready to be picked up to report for Basic Training at Fort Campbell, Kentucky. I went looking for my Dad to say goodbye and couldn't find him. I finally located him in our Garage and he was crying. I asked what was wrong, and he said "Son- I'll never see you again, but do know I love you and always have". I told him I loved him also, we kissed and hugged and I headed for the Army.

Five weeks later, I was called back to the 1SG's office and told "Phifer- Your Father died - You got 72 hours to get home, Sorry, don't be late getting back". I went home, helped my mom as much as I could, said goodbye to Dad, and went back to the Army. Needless to say, especially with the duress of Training, loss of my Dad, and desire to be back home, I resented the 1SG, Army, etc, pretty bad right about then. The worst part was I never had time to feel closure while I completed training.

A number of years later, I actually ran into the same 1SG and now I was an Officer. I asked him if he remembered me (he didn't) and said to him that I felt like the way he handled the situation didn't give me the time to grieve about my Dad. He smiled and said "well Sir, I guess I did you right then. That is what we do to keep you focused and it worked". He was right.

I realized then and continue to with the loss of my mom, her parents, and last July, my Brother, that when special people in our lives pass, they will live on through whoever remains. Their legacy may be as simple as us thinking "what would my Dad, Mom, Brother, etc. do in this situation".

Be at peace Pharmvet by passing your Dad's legacy of love to all that follow you.

 

[arrow]

I had a very out of touch father. He seemed indifferent to me as his son. He never told me he loved me but it was a different age then when men didn't say such things. I always told myself how indifferent I'd be to learn of his death as we were estranged at the time. At his wake and after everyone was gone, I stood before his body and tears kept leaking from my eyes. I could not understand it but it dawned on me after a while. I was crying for the father I never had and maybe what was even sadder, that any last ditch chance of achieving what I wanted from a dad was gone forever. Somewhere I knew I had always loved him but I would be admonished if I vocalized that as I found out at an early age. I was surprised at the way I felt just as you were. We sorrow for that which never was. We cry for those things that will be missed. We lament for wishes that will never come true and is why I stated there is no preparation. If anyone achieves any part of the joy of being a son or daughter to a loving parent, that is truly the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Rejoice in your riches.

 

[texasjohn]

My condolences...lost my dad at 98 this January. His health was failing, but still was a blow....often still think of him..

 

[Fi-Q]

Keep him alive through your memories, he will always be around......

 

[WilliamBos]

Pharmvet,

my condolences to you and your family. I am sorry for you loss. may he rest in peace!

 

[dschuffert]

I am very sorry to read about your loss. I wish you and your family peace.