Golfgar4
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You know, I just thought of something else that I should have mentioned before.
If you and your husband are like most parents, you both have asked yourselves what it is that you're doing wrong in raising Jake. Well I can tell you right now that you're not doing anything wrong - so let that go RIGHT NOW!
I don't know how many times my wife and I have asked ourselves that very same question. It's taken a long time for us to realize that we weren't to blame for how Tom turned out. After all, we raised his older sister and she turned out pretty darn good (Bachelor of science degree, 2 master's degrees, working on her PhD, two childrens books published, etc.). We used the same philosophies and techniques with Tom that we did with her.
So why the difference? Who knows for sure. It's a different generation that seems to be much more materialistic and "me" oriented. Maybe it's TV, or the music they listen to, or who know what else. But almost all of our peers are going through the same thing with their kids. And we all can't be lousy parents, right? /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif
Based on how you describe things and your relationship with Jake, I would be willing to bet that the problem definitely is not on your end. So quit beating yourself up over it. Of course you need to be concerned and you need to do whatever you can to help straighten him out. But you can't hold yourself responsible for his poor decisions and attitudes.
You've got the right attitude about this. At some point, Jake will get it too!
If you and your husband are like most parents, you both have asked yourselves what it is that you're doing wrong in raising Jake. Well I can tell you right now that you're not doing anything wrong - so let that go RIGHT NOW!
I don't know how many times my wife and I have asked ourselves that very same question. It's taken a long time for us to realize that we weren't to blame for how Tom turned out. After all, we raised his older sister and she turned out pretty darn good (Bachelor of science degree, 2 master's degrees, working on her PhD, two childrens books published, etc.). We used the same philosophies and techniques with Tom that we did with her.
So why the difference? Who knows for sure. It's a different generation that seems to be much more materialistic and "me" oriented. Maybe it's TV, or the music they listen to, or who know what else. But almost all of our peers are going through the same thing with their kids. And we all can't be lousy parents, right? /forums/images/graemlins/crazy.gif
Based on how you describe things and your relationship with Jake, I would be willing to bet that the problem definitely is not on your end. So quit beating yourself up over it. Of course you need to be concerned and you need to do whatever you can to help straighten him out. But you can't hold yourself responsible for his poor decisions and attitudes.
You've got the right attitude about this. At some point, Jake will get it too!